Jdancer21 Posted May 31, 2007 Posted May 31, 2007 So,I was on my online personal a couple of days ago. Well, as i'm busy deleting all of the losers that always message me I stumbled upon one e-mail. It was a guy that I knew since we were kids. Our siblings went to school with each other, however, we didn't, but we saw each other every now and then. He's coming to my college next year. Somehow I don't think he recognized me because the last time he physically saw me was when I was 120lbs heavier, and if you looked at me before and now, you wouldn't have thought I was the same person. The thing is, I kinda liked this guy since that time we did a show back in high school, but I was too fat and thought he wouldn't want me. So I replied basically telling him that it was Me and that even though we know each other already I would like to get to know him a little better. It's been a day and he hasn't responded back. I know he's read it because they have this feature on my personal site that tells you whether they read your sent mail or not. (Bad idea) ::Smacks forhead:: I guess the thing was I was soo excited that this guy who I wanted took an interest in me. Now I don't know how to take this. Granted that I know that some people check their mail and respond later (I do that). Is it possible that I was just a tad bit forward? I only said I wanted to get to know him a little more, it's not like i said " I've wanted to date you since high school, be my boyfriend". How would you take this situation? I will be talking to my therapist soon about this. Or maybe he needs time to let this all absorb and click in. I mean he message me thinking that I was another person, only to turn out that we kinda knew each other since we were kids. If he doesn't respond in a couple of days, should I write him again and explain myself. (I noticed that doesn't work and makes the person avoid you even more).
tanbark813 Posted May 31, 2007 Posted May 31, 2007 Don't sweat it. He might just be busy and hasn't really had a chance to sit down and put thought into a reply. I'd give it a week before you really write him off. And don't send a second message unless he responds to the first.
jcster Posted May 31, 2007 Posted May 31, 2007 Don't sweat it. He might just be busy and hasn't really had a chance to sit down and put thought into a reply. I'd give it a week before you really write him off. And don't send a second message unless he responds to the first. Yes! He probably needs a little time to compose a more personal email than he was initially prepared to write. Don't fret.
Author Jdancer21 Posted May 31, 2007 Author Posted May 31, 2007 Yes! He probably needs a little time to compose a more personal email than he was initially prepared to write. Don't fret. Here's the scenario now. I haven't checked my e-mail or my personal because i'm afraid of anticipating a response when there might not be one at all. I'll have to check my e-mail at some point again but I think I need to get a little stronger before checking, in case the worst happens. I forgot to mention that he will be a music major, that's my major as well. We will be in the same building and taking a few classes together... to make a long story short, i'm going to be seeing this guy on a regular basis. Having said that, worst comes to worst, he doesn't take an interest in me I don't want to go into hiding everytime i see him and vice versa, especially since my campus is so small. But then another question strikes me. He messaged me first, he saw my profile saw my interest and saw that we had alot in common and he was interested in seeing what i was about. Why should that change because it turned out to be someone that he knew for a while? I however was told that maybe he's got this preconcieved notions of my Not-so-Prime days with glasses, and clothes for bigger people. Even though i'm far from those days, maybe he can't get past that. That would suck. It's funny how someone you wanted to talk to for awhile ends up taking an interest in you... except they don't think it's you.
jcster Posted May 31, 2007 Posted May 31, 2007 How about if you just start looking forward to seeing an old friend from school - someone who just happens to have similar interests and is coming to your school! It's exciting, right? Forget about the dating aspect - just think about the person and go from there.
monkey00 Posted May 31, 2007 Posted May 31, 2007 Here's the scenario now. I haven't checked my e-mail or my personal because i'm afraid of anticipating a response when there might not be one at all. I'll have to check my e-mail at some point again but I think I need to get a little stronger before checking, in case the worst happens. I forgot to mention that he will be a music major, that's my major as well. We will be in the same building and taking a few classes together... to make a long story short, i'm going to be seeing this guy on a regular basis. Having said that, worst comes to worst, he doesn't take an interest in me I don't want to go into hiding everytime i see him and vice versa, especially since my campus is so small. If that's the case, all the better. If you dont hear from him, you can at least give a friendly hi when you see him on campus and go from there. No need to hide, dont put all your eggs in one basket and you'll be fine.
Author Jdancer21 Posted June 4, 2007 Author Posted June 4, 2007 , 5 days later! He said that we should hang out, I pretty much said I agree and gave him my number as he asked and asked the typical college questions. yay!
Star Gazer Posted June 4, 2007 Posted June 4, 2007 I told you you were worrying too much. Always listen to Tanny. He knows all.
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