iwearpearls Posted May 31, 2007 Posted May 31, 2007 The sex has gotten kind of boring. I think this man is adorable. I melt everytime he smiles, and I am always excited to sleep with him. But lately, since I have been alone and bored, I have tried masturbation when I miss him. Problem is when I see him, all the things he used to do that work don't anymore. I'm fine with never having a solo session again if that means my orgasm with him will come back. I'm just sad. Last night, he asked me if I wasn't attracted to him anymore. But I love him. In fact, I thought I wanted to marry him. I keep having dreams about us getting married and actually having his children. Other nights, I have dreams about other guys asking me out. Perhaps I am just bored. What do I do?
jcster Posted May 31, 2007 Posted May 31, 2007 I might be that you need to relax a little bit. Worrying about having an orgasm is the number one reason to not have one. Also, if you are using a vibrator, that can decrease sensation and make it more difficult to achieve an orgasm "au natural." Maybe you can introduce your guy to some of the things you do by yourself and he can meet you half way? As for whether or not you're getting bored, you might be hitting a doldrum in your relationship. It happens to everyone. We can't be "on" all the time. I bet if you just relax, concentrate on the things you love about him, be patient with him and yourself, then everything will work out just fine. Don't panic!
monkey00 Posted May 31, 2007 Posted May 31, 2007 Grass is greener syndrome. maybe its more of a mental thing here
hardcase Posted May 31, 2007 Posted May 31, 2007 The sex has gotten kind of boring. I think this man is adorable. I melt everytime he smiles, and I am always excited to sleep with him. But lately, since I have been alone and bored, I have tried masturbation when I miss him. Problem is when I see him, all the things he used to do that work don't anymore. I'm fine with never having a solo session again if that means my orgasm with him will come back. I'm just sad. Last night, he asked me if I wasn't attracted to him anymore. But I love him. In fact, I thought I wanted to marry him. I keep having dreams about us getting married and actually having his children. Other nights, I have dreams about other guys asking me out. Perhaps I am just bored. What do I do? Hey, this happens when two people have been together for awhile. Not saying it can't be good...but things always calm down. Anyone who says 5 years from the time they married that it is hot as the day they met are lying. Having said that, if you are the kind of person that gets bored with the same person for so long, then you shouldn't get married. If you are dreaming of hooking up with other guys...then do this man a favor...don't marry him. Not saying you should never get married, but you need to grow up before you commit to anyone. Committment and marriage is not for the selfish, weak, or the immature.
socialight Posted May 31, 2007 Posted May 31, 2007 you seem like a real quitter. Everyone always they understand that relationships are hardwork, but how many people will actually put in the hard work? you say everything else is great but you are considering bailing because you hit a rough patch in your sex life? pretty freaking flimsy. Do you expect him to walk out on you or cheat when you are fat and farting when you are pregnant, or take 2 years to lose the baby wait? How impatient and self centered we have become!
Author iwearpearls Posted June 1, 2007 Author Posted June 1, 2007 Who said anything about bailing?? Not I. I was just looking for people's thoughts or common experience. Socialight, pretty harsh criticism for a pretty innocuous post, especially since I have no intention of leaving this man. Maybe I want to bring the magic back. Maybe I am just scared because I care about this man so much that I think things have to be perfect. Maybe I had a man tell me that sex was a deal breaker for him, who broke my heart. By the way, this man has not even proposed. In fact, I don't know that he wants to. It's only been a year.
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