kitesurfer Posted May 31, 2007 Posted May 31, 2007 I met her last august and we have been virtually unseperable since. She never officially move in with me, but has been with me every day for 4 weeks at a time without sleeping at her appt. She has a 22 year old daughter and a 16 year old daughter--and their cat who live at the apartment. She also is a work a holic and we never have a complete 24 hour period together where she does not take phon calls in the late night and such. she works late too mosat days . she also tends to drink MORE THAN I AM COMFORTABLE WITH. we only eat at places that serve wine and she must stop and get a couple of mini bottle to drink on the way home from work. our sex life has gone from literally 2/3 time a day to weekends only ,and then only if she initiates it. i have learned to not initiate sex! but with all this, i love her dearly and she says that she loves me and is in this for the long haul (but i am not ALLOWEd to propose before a year is up and the engagement will also be a year). so a couple weeks ago, we went on a weekend trip where everything was great...except...she drank a bunch and became very amorous. she loved me, hugged me, carressed me, danced with me. she worked me up to a good lather! we made it back to the room where she made a work call, and then turned herself off! i of course am horney as all get out from the afternoon and evening --and then she just turns off! so driving home the next day turns into a big argument and she ends up moving out. packed up and left-almost. she stayed the night but left the next day for acouple nights and then back for a week and now gone for a couple nights. she says she needs space, that she has a life she has been neglecting for me..ect. she is willing to go to counseling with me and i have set it up. but i feel like this is the beginning of the end....i call her regularly, but she never seem overjoyed that i call. she only returns my calls , but never acts happy to talk with me. it's like i'm bothering her--she's in work mode! ya thinking she is backing off and this is the beginning of the end?
sumdude Posted May 31, 2007 Posted May 31, 2007 If she wants space then give it to her. Putting all that pressure on her is going to drive her away. Sounds like her job gives her enough pressure and she doesn't need yours. Just let her go for a while and see what happens.... Don't call her for a few days. You might seem to want too much. Let her call you. Either it works out or it doesn't. But trying to force it will kill it. When it comes to sex ... either a woman is in the mood or not. Having a tantrum about not getting any only makes her want it less...
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