NY_runner Posted May 31, 2007 Posted May 31, 2007 Broke up with my best friend/girlfriend of sorts a week ago - due to a number of very minor things i can barely pinpoint and also to a much larger issue of my parents not wanting me to be with her which we knew from when it all started. she took it very hard even though in the past when we talk about it she always said she could take it. Its been almost a week now and I can't get her out of my head, I haven't talked to her for a few days now as that is what she asked of me. I am so scared for how she is feeling and can't believe I am letting my parents run my life this way and ruin hers. However, this is both of our first real relationship (mid 20's), so i am not sure if these early feelings are just from the normal hurt or something more. I know she has a friend to cry on but I hate that I can do this to her and that I'm not there to hold her. for those that would say the parents issue shouldn't be one - it is there and hangs over everything. should i wait a while before doing something drastic and upsetting my parents to make sure my feelings are still there and that if she comes out of it ok maybe all of this is a reaction to how i think she is feeling right now at the lows? God i miss her so much and she makes me so happy - however we were always fighting due to this when we hung out so i have no idea how happy we could have really been.
SweptAway Posted June 8, 2007 Posted June 8, 2007 Gee, are you my ex? If you want to be with her so badly, then why'd you dump her? If you care about her so much then why didn't you try to work it out? Scared about how she is feeling? She feels like sh** I promise you. You need to work out how you feel about her? That's not good enough. But she's smart. No contact is the only way she will work this out in her head. It won't take long before she realises that YOU were not the person she really thought you were. YOU just weren't that into her. That someone who loved her to pieces would have FOUGHT for her, not with her. What was it that she needed? What was it she kept saying over and over again? I'm sure she loved you to death and all she wanted was for you to show her the same. You need to sort out your own baggage with your parents or whatever hang ups it is that you have. By then she would have probably moved on.
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