I am taking this dumping too hard...Need your ....

[trent25]

I wont write the whole thing out again, if you could, please read my previous posts. I am taking this really hard because I feel that I have failed and pushed this girl away from me. I don't know what to do now. I have an update. After I sent her an email about three weeks ago, telling her I would be there for her and everything (not in a needy way), just for her bullimia and depression, she wrote me saying "thank you for your concern. I am glad I met a wonderful guy like you. Right now I just think we shouldn't make contact. So after a week goes by and I don't contact her, she writes me again saying "I was just thinking about you and wanted to know how you were doing. I wanted to apologize about how I ended it (she dissappeared). I know it wasn't a decent way to end it and I'm sorry. Keep me updated on what you are up to!"

 

 

So two or three days later I wrote a non emotional response saying "I am doing good. I'm getting lots of job interviews and offers and am very excited about starting my career. There is so much I want to accomplish and places I want to see. Thank you for the apology. I hope you are healthy and happy. Take care"

 

That was Saturday. I haven't heard from her since. Did I do right? Was this her way of relieving her guilt? I am so depressed that I am physically ill. Not because she broke up, but was it my fault? Why one negative email and then this, and then dissappear again. Please give your opinions.

[dazz187s]

ok, i feel like you are witting about me life, no BS. what you are feeling and writing is the same thing that is happing with me here dude, but I'm not taking it so hard. i was with someone for almost 5 years and she blow me of without a reason. she wanted space and i took it hard, tried to get an answer but one day i said to myself i have to give her her space. i did and tonight i called and let her know i still care but she doesn't feel the same in my views. what drove her away is a question.but knowing she doesn't feel the same has given me hope to move on and know that she is happy and i have to let go. i know my story is not important to you but understand the feeling to get her back and how to "grieve" a loss of a best friend.

 

 

so now I'm reading your other posts and let me see what happened here.

 

 

 

 

wow, ok....you and i my friend..think we need to sit in person and talk(lol). My ex did the same thing. she called and i called 7 days a week for almost 4 years non-stop. if you want to read into read my other posts, but now this is about you and let me guess....you still think she will come back...i say yes she will...but this WILL HAPPEN AGAIN. During my 5 years with the ex she broke it up once, we didn't see each other for a while and then we went right back into it. i knew she was depressed and had family problems, so there were nights were she didnt want to pick up her phone and I know how hard it must be to not call anymore.

 

Why i think she will come back....because she cares about you knows that your a great guy but understand her problem. the pattern my friend...if you take her back(and i bet you will because i did once) this will happen again and that though will feed your mind..you will think when will she do it again, what ? when? why? and if there is a who?. i lived that life for almost 2 years. she had alot of problems and i dropped everything for her. i had a meeting with some editors from a major production and i dropped it for her because she was in her depression mood. i lost a great chance to work with the best and she was first in my mind.

 

she did me a favor by letting me go and letting her resolve her life on her own. that is very big step in her part. i right now, dont want to know how she is where she is and with who she is with. i now need to think about how i can better my life and career.

 

its not what we say to those we love...its what we do that counts.

 

 

Trent, if it is true about your struggle right now with all this, email me at [email protected]. you'll have someone to write about this and let me tell you...she said sorry and wishes the best...that should help you to move on and wish better things for yourself.

 

let me ask you and anyone here to write a paragraph on their own computer or on a sheet of paper...about yourself, who you are and what you like to do....if you can't..that means you have a bigger problem then your ex. how can you expect to help her/him if you can't even help yourself.

 

So trent, email if theres no one to talk to and we'll see where this stands, because this story sounds like me two years ago and let me tell you this...she will come back but this will happen again and you will loss everything. i too had friends, parents, even her family told me she is unstable and your risking yourself and they were right, but im not mad but mostly sad to let a good thing go....i always told her that i was her superman...and she always said i know and will be forever. women are more powerful then man and by that i mean their way of handling their emotions.

 

 

If you wish not to write or anyone else in that case...i have one last thing to say here and that is...from shaun of the dead flick

 

"SORT YOUR LIFE"

 

"I'M NOT GOING TO SAY THERE ARE PLENTY OF FISH IN THE SEA..AND I'M NOT GOING TO SAY IF YOU LOVE HER THAT YOU SHOULD LET HER GO...BUT WHAT I WILL SAY IS THIS.......

......ITS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD"

[dazz187s]

no..ITS NOT YOUR FAULT. she has these problems and its her who is unable to stay put with her life....and yes...she has given the slip......

 

but its hard to say what women think here....its like jail...your in it for a while...your locked up by your emotions and you trent are the one that can yourself free from this jail. let her come to you and you..that means YOU decide what the next step should be....till then...do what makes you smile...go outside and see the city or town you live in...go on long walks...write down what you feel and read it after a week and see if you still feel the same. be greatful she is calm and you should be VERY aware she is able to do this alone...it is up to you now to let her fix her problems here if she thinks being with someone..because no guy will put up with this and NO!!!! she is not seeing someone else...shes a mess and i think she is aware of that( which many are not). If she does, it means nothing and only her will see the mistake...love in life IS NOT THE SAME AS THE MOVIES OR LOVE SONGS!!!!!!!. everyone has different lives and different problems.

 

Read into this bi polor and depression thing, google it and see that many men have gone though the same and are dealing it on hard and easy ways.

[trent25]

Thanks very much dazz. I am sending you an email shortly. I cannot imagine how hard it was to deal with something like this for 4 years. You really are a superman cause I almost lost my mind in 7 months.....