SimplyCoders Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 I was wondering if any else had a similar feeling after breaking up with an ex. Long story short, we dated in college for two years; broke up at the end of college (her decision). We didn't get back together (my decision, I don't take people back after they have a fling). We don't speak; again my decision as it's easier. I still care for her in the sense that I want the best for her; I just don't want to date her. Now a year has passed and we have both gone in different directions. However, that is what troubles me. She is a frequent user of a popular social network and basically discloses too much information. Information on the profile such as: erotic, best in bed, take you to the moon in bed, her actual employer, location, age, etc. Some of the information I know is 100% accurate. Her behavior has changed dramatically from a more conservative individual to very open. She appears to make friends with individuals who are not supportive and engages in activities which are destructive. When the phrases "best in bed" and "loves long term relationships" are used in conjunction; it is hard to ignore the paradox. Anyone ever felt like telling an ex to wake the hell up and look at what they are doing? I know I shouldn't concern myself (and its obvious I still checkup on her); but I did and do care for her (irrespective of the past). She went from the nature, camping, sailing, beach personality to the; drinking, partying, hey I'm available version. All of this appears to occur after college? Unusual. I don't see how a guy which is interested in long term, has good morals and is supportive would be interested in someone broadcasting their sexual high points. I can't help but wonder if I produced this behavior since I refused to take her back.
CaliGuy Posted May 31, 2007 Posted May 31, 2007 It's her life to live. You have to let her live it. If you involve yourself in her life you will merely cause resentment. Let her friends and family help her. If I were you, I'd stop checking her profile. It's not healthy for you.
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