mattie2007 Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 i have been seeing a new guy for a month or so now. i like him a lot, and i am attracted to him intensely. this past weekend, his parents came into the city from a few hours away, and he took me to church and to brunch with them. he introduced me to them and to his pastor as someone he was dating. a couple of days ago, he sent me an invitation to a happy hour that is scheduled for tomorrow. i called him today and asked him if he wanted to meet up and go to the happy hour together, and he said "he wasn't ready to go to happy hours as a couple." i was kind of floored. happy hour doesn't seem like that big a deal to me. why would he take me out with his folks and present me as someone he was dating and then be ashamed to be seen with me in a bar? it's a fundraiser at an upscale bar--not a boys night out or anything like that. i'm a little hurt. i think there must be someone there he is hooking up with. what should i make of this? thanks for any help!
nittygritty Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 i have been seeing a new guy for a month or so now. i like him a lot, and i am attracted to him intensely. this past weekend, his parents came into the city from a few hours away, and he took me to church and to brunch with them. he introduced me to them and to his pastor as someone he was dating. a couple of days ago, he sent me an invitation to a happy hour that is scheduled for tomorrow. i called him today and asked him if he wanted to meet up and go to the happy hour together, and he said "he wasn't ready to go to happy hours as a couple." i was kind of floored. happy hour doesn't seem like that big a deal to me. why would he take me out with his folks and present me as someone he was dating and then be ashamed to be seen with me in a bar? it's a fundraiser at an upscale bar--not a boys night out or anything like that. i'm a little hurt. i think there must be someone there he is hooking up with. what should i make of this? thanks for any help! I agree with you in that it sounds like "there must be someone there he is hooking up with". Have you asked him?
IfWishesWereHorses Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 I don't think he would have invited you if he was "meeting" someone else up there. If this is a charity event then most likely he will have to mingle and doesn't want the added hastle of having you intow, so to speak. It sounds like you two are fairly early in the dating process and taking things slow is really smart. I'ld invite a couple of friends to come along and "stop in" to say hello on your way to somewhere you'ld rather be or hang out there for the evening if that suits you.
Topper Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 You might just be the girl he useing to impress Mom and Dad. They see dating and is looking for a serious relationship. I have an idea you have the girl next door look. You fit the Parents idea of who he should dbe seeing. The only way you are going to find out for sure is to just go to the happy hour on your own.
Krytellan Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 It's easy, he realized that someone he wasn't expecting is showing up to happy hour or he isn't convinced that he has given up on someone in the happy hour group yet. Gotta keep the options open ya know.
champagne Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 i have been seeing a new guy for a month or so now. i like him a lot, and i am attracted to him intensely. this past weekend, his parents came into the city from a few hours away, and he took me to church and to brunch with them. he introduced me to them and to his pastor as someone he was dating. a couple of days ago, he sent me an invitation to a happy hour that is scheduled for tomorrow. i called him today and asked him if he wanted to meet up and go to the happy hour together, and he said "he wasn't ready to go to happy hours as a couple." i was kind of floored. happy hour doesn't seem like that big a deal to me. why would he take me out with his folks and present me as someone he was dating and then be ashamed to be seen with me in a bar? it's a fundraiser at an upscale bar--not a boys night out or anything like that. i'm a little hurt. i think there must be someone there he is hooking up with. what should i make of this? thanks for any help! So...he basically invited you to go to his happy hour and then unvited you. Next! You can do better.
Starry-eyed Posted May 31, 2007 Posted May 31, 2007 So...he basically invited you to go to his happy hour and then unvited you. Next! You can do better. Exactly. He totally contradicted himself. There's got to be a reason, and you can ask him straight out what is up, or you can not ask and always wonder, or you can just move on. But it does seem really odd that he would do that.
polywog Posted May 31, 2007 Posted May 31, 2007 Exactly. He totally contradicted himself. There's got to be a reason, and you can ask him straight out what is up, or you can not ask and always wonder, or you can just move on. But it does seem really odd that he would do that. I dunno, I find it a little rude. I am inclined to agree with the "move on" posters here. I know it's painful, but still, you should Not be treated like this. And I just have to say that LS has been filled with posts the past few days of men dissing women they met recently and appeared to be serious about, but suddenly withdrew their interest. What's up with that???? You seem to have a lot of company here!
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