me_me Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 Hi guy..i was wondering that after break up with your MM/MW and you feel really low ,depressed,hard to let go,no way out,....after all that the only person you wanted to tell,or talk about how you felt is your EX BECaUSE SOMEHOW YOU THOUGHT it might help.?
BurriedAlive Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 I spent 6 months talking to my xMM about breaking up and how the relationship couldn't go anywhere. This was mainly because I couldn't tell anyone else about the A. What you need to do is find friends or a therapist to talk to. The only way your are going to get over MM is to cut him out of your life. If not, you will remain attached to him for as long as he is still in your life.
Author me_me Posted May 30, 2007 Author Posted May 30, 2007 I spent 6 months talking to my xMM about breaking up and how the relationship couldn't go anywhere. This was mainly because I couldn't tell anyone else about the A. What you need to do is find friends or a therapist to talk to. The only way your are going to get over MM is to cut him out of your life. If not, you will remain attached to him for as long as he is still in your life. i have been talking to my close friend about this but i guess i just wanted to know how he feel about the whole thing ...the more we talk the more i felt deeper AND DEEPER...we all talk about same as everyone here he won't leave his wife but he love me ....we broke up a few time but i just wanted him back its is so hard to let go of someone you really love....i know its will be same old same old but the more we broke up the more feeling growth....and i find it really hard to let go...
BurriedAlive Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 I bet it's the feeling of helplessness that is the worst! MM is probably trying to help you but other than "I am leaving my wife," there isn't a whole lot that will make you feel better is there? Take it from me, when the relationship with him is costing you more than you are getting you have to do whatever it takes to let go. NC is the only way to go. And maybe you aren't ready for that yet but you will be eventually and you will get through it! You are stronger than him.
Onelife Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 I agree with BurriedAlive that it's mainly because we have noone else to talk to about the A. Also if both MM and OW are in serious pain from the breakup, it would be kind of the way to nurse each other out of this suffering. From my own experience, I am not sure if it really helps though. Maybe it only prolongs the pain:lmao:. Sometimes I think talking about the feeling with him gives me some hopes that he may realize what he is losing in our relationship. Then I know they are false hopes anyway. I guess I am just in denial. Sooner or later I will feel numb and eventually move on. I really think that NC is the only way out but so far I am just too weak to do it.
Author me_me Posted May 31, 2007 Author Posted May 31, 2007 Take it from me, when the relationship with him is costing you more than you are getting you have to do whatever it takes to let go. sad but true its does cost me alot and i did learn a lot ...but the demon in me tell me that you can not let go YET...you do what it take to get the one you love ..but i guess on the other hand ...the question is WHAT THE POINT? yes no matter how he won't leave his wife to be with me...but his guilts that he made me suffer he always be there for me..no matter what ...i try with NC but its almost impossible..we lived in small town everyone involved each other ....so hard ....or because of me that i am the one who hang on and the end of the day its only me that its really hurt by this whole ordeal....and i don't know if i can be stronger than him BARRIEDALIVE......tell me how to get through it......
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