Star Gazer Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 Who wants someone who finds it easy to not have sex with them? Nobody. That must feel horrible. So, do you want my address? :love:
DanielMadr Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 It's pretty harsh to simply say "get over it" BUT, I personally feel that a woman needs to deal with the issues by herself and not approach a relationship until she has done so. It's not a matter of getting over it, its a matter of learning how to deal with it in an effective manner. After you've dealt with it in an effective manner then you learn how to not let it be an issue in your next relationship. So I feel that is pretty much the woman's responsibility in this aspect. Unless you missed it, check it out....http://ezinearticles.com/?expert_bio=Christine_Akiteng&bio_sort=a
Author tanbark813 Posted May 30, 2007 Author Posted May 30, 2007 Tan, I think the next time around you really gotta make sure the girl you start dating isn't a big ball of crazy when it comes to relationships. You seem to have poor luck. Totally. Actually, I like to think of it as having exceptional talent for finding crazy chicks. Now I just need to figure out how I could market that and retire early.
annabelle75 Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 So, do you want my address? :love: Why you little hussy!! (....pm me if you want me address too )
Author tanbark813 Posted May 30, 2007 Author Posted May 30, 2007 So, do you want my address? :love: Yes, please.
Star Gazer Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 Why you little hussy!! (....pm me if you want me address too ) Back off woman! You already made a dude fall in love with you after hopping into bed!! It's my turn now!!
Author tanbark813 Posted May 30, 2007 Author Posted May 30, 2007 Back off woman! You already made a dude fall in love with you after hopping into bed!! It's my turn now!! YEAH!
annabelle75 Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 Back off woman! You already made a dude fall in love with you after hopping into bed!! It's my turn now!! damn ...... Why is it so hard to be woman that just wants sex and fun and not a commitment. Is it too much to ask for?
allina Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 Back off woman! You already made a dude fall in love with you after hopping into bed!! It's my turn now!! Will you two just do yourselves a favor and get together already, look FF and MC are out of the way, it's only right
Star Gazer Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 damn ...... Why is it so hard to be woman that just wants sex and fun and not a commitment. Is it too much to ask for? I repeat, "Pick your nookie partners carefully." You can't have NSA with a dude that's looking at your with big puppy dog eyes and visions of white picket fences. Tanny - what a HUGE loss your MC has suffered. She must be certifiable.
Author tanbark813 Posted May 30, 2007 Author Posted May 30, 2007 Tanny - what a HUGE loss your MC has suffered. She must be certifiable. Funny, I was thinking the same thing about FF.
Mustang Sally Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 Ok, this gal sounds like she just likes playing games. I don't really understand how a gal at 35 is still doing this kind of lame sorority-girl business. I would advise you to be happy that it's over. Who knows what she was thinking??? Games. All just games, and at a point in life that she should be done with that. (Unless she has HSV, like a4a suggested. But even then, it's a game to not just come out and tell you.)
Star Gazer Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 (Unless she has HSV, like a4a suggested. But even then, it's a game to not just come out and tell you.) That would still be sooooooooooo effed up - they've done enough already that she should have told him before the "everything but" line was crossed.
IpAncA Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 No girl has ever made me wait this long--even close to this long--and it was starting to take a toll. Then maybe it would be a good idea to make your intentions known up front that you can't wait. Her: "Well all of this is not making me want to have sex with you." Me: "It's not supposed to. I want you to want to on your own." Her: "I DO want to." Me: "If you wanted to you would." Smooth...real smooth. Probably should have asked her why she's waiting so long (according to you) instead of throwing that at her. Because now if she chooses to still see you, MIGHT feel obligated. At any rate, it ended with her saying she doesn't think things are going to work out. I can see why. You basically called her a liar. Do you even know why she's waiting?
sb129 Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 I'd rather be a jerk than have no balls. Which is good. 2 months is a period needed for blood sample to show if its infected with HIV virus or not. May be she is afraid she has slim. But I dont understand why wouldnt she told him that. 'I attended gangbang party at Soweto.....' You can still get STDs from oral sex. She's confusing me. Wasn't SHE the one establishing the tit-for-tat here? Thats what I thought. Having been in a R with tit for tat- it sucks. I agree. She shouldnt have done anything at all if she wasnt ready for sex. Yup. Who wants someone who finds it easy to not have sex with them? Not me! SG and TB K-I-S-S-I-N-G If you do get it on, can I come to the wedding? I have never been to SF.
Author tanbark813 Posted May 30, 2007 Author Posted May 30, 2007 Then maybe it would be a good idea to make your intentions known up front that you can't wait. I can't? I waited 7 weeks.
IpAncA Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 I can't? I waited 7 weeks. So what. Not everyone has sex within the first month. If you can't wait that long then you need to make it known you need it sooner.
Author tanbark813 Posted May 30, 2007 Author Posted May 30, 2007 So what. Not everyone has sex within the first month. If you can't wait that long then you need to make it known you need it sooner. Well, again, I did wait that long. Secondly, I was making it known. That's kind of the whole point of this thread.
IpAncA Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 Well, again, I did wait that long. Secondly, I was making it known. That's kind of the whole point of this thread. Yes but did she know within the first couple dates?
Author tanbark813 Posted May 30, 2007 Author Posted May 30, 2007 Yes but did she know within the first couple dates? Yes. After the first date she initiated the "sex talk" and we laid our cards out on the table. I did tell her it would be a problem to wait a long time and it generally doesn't happen with me. Honestly, 90% of girls do the whole "I wait a month" or "I don't put out on the first date" but only about 10% of them actually mean it. I didn't expect her to be one of the few that actually followed through.
champagne Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 Yes, I'm not judging this woman because it doesn't sound like Tanbark was overly sensitive. So...I could understand why she would have reservations. People are saying basically she was obligated to have sex with him just because they had oral sex.
Star Gazer Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 People are saying basically she was obligated to have sex with him just because they had oral sex. That is ABSOLUTELY NOT what we are saying. What we ARE saying is that IF she has this whole "I want to wait" thing going on, then she should have ALSO been sensitive to HIS needs and not TEASE him with oral/"tip" action (why are you people missing this "tip" thing???? - that is controlling and manipulative to the n-th degree!!). She shouldn't have participated in those games if her goal was to wait until she was ready.
IpAncA Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 Yes. After the first date she initiated the "sex talk" and we laid our cards out on the table. I did tell her it would be a problem to wait a long time and it generally doesn't happen with me. Honestly, 90% of girls do the whole "I wait a month" or "I don't put out on the first date" but only about 10% of them actually mean it. I didn't expect her to be one of the few that actually followed through. Since you both laid the cards out I would be wondering. It maybe game playing but she might have a reason why she's backing out. Did she ever give you her reason? You never did say that unless I missed it.
Star Gazer Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 Yes. After the first date she initiated the "sex talk" and we laid our cards out on the table. I did tell her it would be a problem to wait a long time and it generally doesn't happen with me. Hmm, I wonder why she initiated the "sex talk" so soon? I think that's a little weird, and further demonstrates she has some hang-ups in that area. Did you tell her what "a long time" meant to you?
Author tanbark813 Posted May 30, 2007 Author Posted May 30, 2007 Since you both laid the cards out I would be wondering. It maybe game playing but she might have a reason why she's backing out. Did she ever give you her reason? You never did say that unless I missed it. I said it a couple times: Her reasoning was that she likes to "experience relationships in stages" (her words). She said that sex increases the level of intimacy, to which I agreed. I told her I was ready for that with her but apparently she wasn't ready for that with me. Hmm, I wonder why she initiated the "sex talk" so soon? I think that's a little weird, and further demonstrates she has some hang-ups in that area. Did you tell her what "a long time" meant to you? Well initially she said she likes to wait a long time. When I asked what kind of timeframe that was she said "two months" but kind of hesitated so I don't know how accurate that was. I did say that was a long time and that anything over a month seems long to me. And, really, even a month seems kind of long.
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