hrtbroken99 Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 so its been 6 months since my bf left me...and still I am here trying to cope...I must say I am much better than I was months ago...but I still have many days where I get sad...and a day does not go by without thinking of him...it makes me angry real angry...I just want to forget about him...is this normal even 6 months later? I went to a therapist for about 4 months and after that have tried ot keep myself busy and stuff but...still...those memory moments haunt me.. i feel like such a loser so pathetic not letting go still. Who knows what he is up too, I am sure he has already met someone and is busy with a new bed buddy and here I am still grieving...I just hate this feeling...I even have dreams about him time to time and think about how my life wa slast year at this time and how he was in my life and what we were up too..or I think what would it be like if i ever ran into him again in this lifetime...it annoyes me like crazy....HOW LONG is it going to take to let go? I notice everytime the end of the month comes I get really sad because that is usually another month added to the time of the breakup...I know there is not answer for that but I am just venting...sorry my loveshack friends..you guys got stuck with my venting its so hard to cope
Great Gazoo Posted May 31, 2007 Posted May 31, 2007 I don't think your a loser or pathetic, it is hard to cope with any loss. It takes time but you are getting on with your life and that is all you can try and do. It is a good sign that you are feeling better than you did months ago. There will be a day his memory wont haunt you.
shockandawed Posted May 31, 2007 Posted May 31, 2007 Hey Hrtbroken, Don't apologize for venting on here, that is what this is for. It has been a little over 5 months myself since my fiance and I broke up. I can relate to so much of what you said. I too would get very depressed at the end of a month or the first day of a new one. It did seem to signify that another wall had passed between us. Today isn't so bad and in fact I am kind of looking forward to June. My last contact with her was in March, on an IM. She blew up over small talk, claimed she was getting married in May and logged off. Who knows if it happened or not, but I can say I wondered every weekend if this was it. But a few days ago, I stumbled onto a dating site and there was her profile, no picture, but 100% it was her. Recent activity, so it appears she hasn't changed any. Starting to try to line up the next one to jump to. Who knows? Just proves how nuts she is. I have the dreams also...had a long and vivid one last night in fact. And I also think about dates and what we were doing this day a year ago. Memorial Day I actually went kayaking at the same place we went last Memorial Day. It was bittersweet. The person I took was nowhere near as skilled as my ex. It made me miss her. How long were you together? Have you been doing anything to move on with your life? I have made quite a bit of memories these last 5 months I wouldn't have had if we were still together. I focus on that and the problems in our relationship and truly understand I can and will do better. But I still miss the benefits and "security" of having someone like that in my life. Hang in there!
kali420 Posted June 14, 2007 Posted June 14, 2007 Hey I'm in the same boat. Its been nearly 9 months. You can check my threads to see all the details. We used to work together. I left because I couldn't take seeing her. I just can't get her off my mind as well. Finding out she started dating someone I knew made it harder too. She working with all the friends I have made, made it harder too. In my case, I just have the hardest time not thinking about it. Insecurities, Self-esteeem, all play a role too. I wish I could be like Jim Carey in "Eternal Sunshine...". Just erase her from my memories. I need time. That's what they say. I keep refering to all the old cliche's. That's all I run into these days.
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