Cardinal64 Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 Hi again. Does anyone else out there feel really empty inside while awaiting for your divorce from your spouse to become final? ( Married 7 years - together about 8 1/2 years - we have a 6-year old son we both love dearly ) Part of me knows that I'm doing the right thing because I could not deal anymore with my wife's infidelity. Something had to give. But another part of me feels sad inside - this is not the way my life was supposed to end up. How things got to this point - is a question I find myself asking over and over again. Was there something I could have done differently? Would it have made any difference? Second guessing oneself can really eat you alive inside. Well thanks for any input to my post. I just have to stay focused on the fact that everything in life happens for a reason. Out of this difficult time - I know something positive will come.
RecordProducer Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 Does anyone else out there feel really empty inside while awaiting for your divorce from your spouse to become final? The majority of people feel empty on the inside whether they're waiting for a divorce, marriage, sex, love, excitement, something, someone... The empty feeling is devastating and that's why we need something more constant to fulfill us, like friends, career, hobbies, kids, books... Love is an empty feeling anyway. When you fall in love, it seems bigger than everything, it over-shadows all your other goals and feelings, but soon the infatuation is gone and what remains is naked life again: work, responsibilities, bills, hobbies, TV, friends. I think the only people who really suffer after a breakup are the ones who are used to a good company with their spouse - anfd then lose it with the separation. But if you've spent most of the time arguing with your wife, feeling sad, angry, and frustrated, then what are you really going to miss when you split? I am sure in seven years, you've had many good times, but you can still be friends with your soon-to-be-ex wife, even after you split. It would be even better for your child. Part of me knows that I'm doing the right thing because I could not deal anymore with my wife's infidelity. Something had to give.Infidelity is a legitimate reason for a divorce. That is if she had sex with the other man one kiss would be a questionable issue). But another part of me feels sad inside - this is not the way my life was supposed to end up. How things got to this point - is a question I find myself asking over and over again. You and 90% of people ask themselves why they ended up divorced or married like this. Very few people are happily married and you have the chance now to meet the right person since you're going to be single. Look at this as a new beginning - not an end. Was there something I could have done differently? Would it have made any difference? Second guessing oneself can really eat you alive inside. Yes, you could have done everything differently, but you didn't. You acted the way you knew best at the time.
sumdude Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 You have two options ... Keep looking at the past with regret and sadness. This takes you nowhere because the past cannot be changed. OR Start looking to the present and future with the potential for bigger and better things. This you can have control over.
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