Guest Posted May 29, 2007 Posted May 29, 2007 Hello everyone this is my first post, I'm so happy I found somewhere where I can talk about this it's such a relief! Basically I need some advice. I started off being friends with my married co-worker but it was obvious from the start that he wasn't happy at home. Although the friendship started innocently enough after about a year he told me he liked me and obviously I was horrified (because he was a married man) and told him we could only be friends. Since that time we've grown closer and closer and in the end we kissed about a year ago and he told me that he would leave his wife for me. Although we meet in secret and do kiss each other it has not gone further than that- only because I've said I won't sleep with him whilst he's married. I said I will not be the OW and unless our relationship was going somewhere I wouldnt get involved- although he initially said he'd leave his wife for me, he seems reluctant to do it as he said he is not sure whether I'd stick around if he did leave her (he is a bit insecure.) He's always maintained that he can't believe what he's doing but that he really thinks that me and him were meant to be- and we have got a spark which is undeniable even without sex. Anyways part of me thinks 'oh thats just an excuse' whereas another part of me says 'well you've been seeing each other for nearly a year and he hasnt complained about not having sex etc'- surely that symbolises that he cant be after one thing as he would have just got it from someone else if he wanted to?' What does everyone think of it all? I'd appreciate any help as I'm really confused.
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