SadCanuck Posted May 29, 2007 Posted May 29, 2007 OK, here's my situation. I hope it feels as therapeutic writing this as I hope. I've been married for 10 years to a great woman whom I love dearly. We have 2 daughters - 8 and 5 years old. My wife has recently told me she wants to end our marriage. To a certain extent, this came out of the blue for me. While I recognized we were having some problems in our marriage, I believed this was simply a rough patch and that we were committed life partners and better times were ahead. Our sex life has gradually dried up to the point it has been several months since we had it at all. She blames me for this though I don't share that view. I feel like she just stopped being receptive to my advances. She has not ever really been the one to initiate this in our marriage. I have cried a lot in the last couple of weeks. I do not want this to be how my life story goes at all. I have always envisioned growing old with this woman. In no way do I want the life where I live alone and don't see my kids (and my wife) every day. We both have successful careers and we are doing well financially. This has always been important to my wife and she has kept at a job that made her miserable and kept her travelling more than she would like so she could bring in more money. For a long time, we talked about how sad this job was making her but she would not consider leaving it. I'm really struggling with what to do now. I really want this to work out but so far she has been resistant to trying. She is not sure she wants to. I am legitimately willing to change whatever needs be changed to make things work but she is not sure its possible any more. I feel so bad that I misread the earlier signs that should have been alarm bells and now my life is here. I want to fix our marriage but not sure I can. I don't even really understand what is wrong. I suspect the coming weeks will see the breakup of my marriage - and my entire life. But it shouldn't have to. We are both great people, great parents and we were great partners. I think our marriage is worth saving. I'm also struggling with how to do the right things to reconcile my marriage and not give up any rights I might eventually have with my kids. It's really tough to think about saving your marriage on one hand while considering what you have to do to prepare for the fact you may not succeed on the other. Thanks for listening. I hope my wife isn't reading this...
onestepback Posted May 29, 2007 Posted May 29, 2007 I completely feel your pain...is there any chance that there is another man in the picture?
Darth Vader Posted May 29, 2007 Posted May 29, 2007 I completely feel your pain...is there any chance that there is another man in the picture? Exactly my thought! If there is, you may not want to be married to her any longer!
notspiritual Posted May 29, 2007 Posted May 29, 2007 It takes 2 persons to build a marriage but it takes just one woman to end it. Another woman has revealed her true self after 10 years of marriage. I would personally move on, but I understand that you want to try to save your marriage, you will find good advice in this thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t119782/ I agree with other posts, you should check if there is another man. As she travels a lot, there are plenty of opportunities to cheat. she has kept at a job that made her miserable and kept her travelling more than she would like so she could bring in more money.
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