Steve20 Posted May 29, 2007 Posted May 29, 2007 It is worth being in a serious relationship in college? I’m with a girl right now that I really care about, more than anyone I’ve been with in the past. I broke it off with my ex of 2 years to be with her, but I’m a third year student in college. What are the chances of this amounting to something? I enter relationships in search for my soul mate, not to just have a fling. Am I just setting myself up for heartbreak? Or do you think it’s worth putting forth the effort?
Tony T Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 It is worth being in a serious relationship in college? I’m with a girl right now that I really care about, more than anyone I’ve been with in the past. I broke it off with my ex of 2 years to be with her, but I’m a third year student in college. What are the chances of this amounting to something? I enter relationships in search for my soul mate, not to just have a fling. Am I just setting myself up for heartbreak? Or do you think it’s worth putting forth the effort? If both people want the same thing, there's nothing in the world to stop it. If you've picked a mature lady who's not out there looking under every stone for the elusive perfect male you may just have something. I had a lot of friends find their soul mate in college. Matter of fact, the gal I probably loved more than any lady in my life was in my very first college class...Speech 101. She loved me and I love her...and I mean it was powerful. Had I wanted, it could have gone the distance. I simply wasn't ready and my fricken heart pounded so damned hard everytime she was near it just drove me up a wall...I couldn't take it. No matter where you are in life, if you meet somebody who does it for you in every way and it still works after some time has passed, for Pete's sake go for it. Just don't force something that's really not supposed to be.
GodofNietzsche Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 I think it is worthwhile being in a serious relationship in college, but one thing I have found is that it takes understanding. Issues can arise from the fact that during the school week people can have very different schedules, which necessitate them spending varying amounts of time on class (both inside and outside). I'm majoring in a foreign languague that meets every day in the morning, and requires 2-3 of studying daily. My g/f doesn't wake up til around noon and doesn't go to be til about 4 in the morning. But she respects the fact the that when I need to go home to sleep, I REALLY need to go home and sleep. Running on 3 or 4 hours of sleep a night can drive you insane. Also, I think you need to give up the idea of looking for a soul mate. You're putting to much pressure on the other person to live up to the ideal your always searching for. Its not fair to yourself and especially not to them. Have fun and enjoy their company. Don't back out just cause you know its going to end one day. That'd be like offing yourself because you know you're eventually going to die. HOWEVER, if it is disrupting the your school work and ultimately making you unhappy, then back out.
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