love79 Posted May 29, 2007 Posted May 29, 2007 I just get so angry at my ex I want to scream. See we have a 4 year old son together and I have primary custody-- with him getting our child every other weekened and during the week. Well on my ex's dating profiles and my space pages..etc he writes the only thing that keeps him going is the love of his son and he gets sad and depressed because he hardly ever sees him HOWEVER the reality of it is every time he has to take our son for the weekened he makes plans with his friends or plans his dates and my son either ends up with me (which of course I would rather him be) or with my ex's father. What makes me mad and we always end of in a fight is a). He always acts like father of the year in front of other people b). He always lies about what he is doing and why he cant take our son for the time and c) my ex says our son is too young to understand right now and no matter what I say our son will always love him. I want my son to have a full relationship with his father but not just because his father doesnt have a date or plans. How can someone just pick and chose when to see and love there child? Should I just let my anger go because when my son gets older he will see for himself how his father is? Trust me I dont bad mouth his father in front of him..i dont even talk about his father at all. What to do?
Requiem Posted June 9, 2007 Posted June 9, 2007 I couldnt quite tell what you was looking for with your post. The situation seems quite like some would expect. He wants to have that good impression and wants to look like a good father but at the same time he dosnt wana be a father. That can either be because he dosnt wana give up everything he dose and he wants to live his life. I am sure that he loves his son, he has to be alot worse off in the head if he dosnt... He might just not really know what to do with his son, he dosnt know how to really spend time with him or know how to do what he wants to do, he might feel wierd about doing it so that might be drivieng him away. What ever the problem is with it, he needs to figure out and address it. He might just need parenting help himself insted of him just being a bad father because he is..
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