eaglebaseball Posted May 29, 2007 Posted May 29, 2007 First, sorry for the long post. Ok, well this is probably just another run of the mill situation, but I'll say it anyway. Just for a little background information, I've never been good with girls (talking, asking out, etc) whether I know them well or not, and that makes this even more difficult. I've known this girl for probably about 4 years, but I've only really talked to her a whole lot in the past two years. Our parents are really good friends, which once again makes it even more stressful. Ok, so mine, hers, and some other families go out to dinner a lot on weeknights and stuff, and so the adults get a table, and the kids get a table. I started talking to her, and got to know her better (this has been going on for quite a while, the dinner thing) and I really learned how cool she was. Then, back in september or so of last year, it was time for the homecoming dance, and all the stuff that goes with. I was thinking of asking someone, and she was the first one who popped into my head. I thought about it, and decided she probably didn't want to go with me. Then, like 2 weeks before the dance, one of her and my friends came up and was like "are you going to homecoming?" I said yeah sure, probably. Than she asked if I had a date, and I was like "no, I'm to afraid to ask anyone" Then she said "well my friend wants a date, and I asked her who she wanted, and she told me you, so I was going to see if you wanted to go with her" I said "yeah sure, I'd love to" So now I was pretty sure I might as well ask her out, since I was pretty sure she'd say yes. Well, we walked between two classes every single day, and after like 5 days, I finally was about to ask her, and I choked (not literally.) and didn't ask her. So that class was over, and she walked out before I could stop her, and then I luckily caught up with her in the hall, and asked her to the dance (super nervewrecking) and she said sure. Ok, well I was all happy and everything, because I got a date with a girl I really liked, and apparently she wanted to go with me. Well, I got a call a day later, and she says "well, I don't really want to have a date anymore. No one else is going to have one, so I don't want to feel special. Is that alright with you?" I said "sure, I guess" and then she hung up. Her friend (the same one earlier) called to apologize to me for getting dumped (how that happened, I'll never know), but insisted that I still go with their group. So I talked to one of my friends who was going with us, and his date hadn't dumped him (even though she never wanted to go with him in the first place) and also my other friend had a date with the girl in the same group. I was majorly pissed off because she dumped me for a completly false reason (or maybe only partially false, maybe she just didn't want a date). So, I called her back and asked her a few days later, and said "are you sure you don't still want to go with me? John and bob are still going with someone, and so you wouldn't be the only one with a date" Well, she shot me down again. Dinner and the dance went well, I never even talked to her though, she seemed too ashamed to talk to me whenever I tried. now, fastforward to now. The school year is now over, and we did become slightly better (after 6 months) we talked in class and worked on projects together, etc. then I had a dream last night, totally about her, and then I realized how much I really do like her. I tried to focus on other girls, and it worked for a while, but I just feel comfortable around her. Even though its hard to talk to her (i'm not a very talkative type), I feel comfortable around her, even in silence. Even after the incident at homecoming, which hurt really bad because I really did like her, only to turn aruond and get shot down, I still liked her. I have no idea whether she likes me or not, but I know for sure that I like her. I want to ask her out, maybe just the movies or something, and see what happens from there, but I'm scared like no other to do it. I don't have a problem really with her parents, other than the fact that I would be dating thier daughter, but they know me, and know I'm not gonna do something stupid, so they would trust me with her. I just don't know where to go from here. I could just leave it as it is, and stay friends where I'm really not happy, or I could ask her out, and risk losing everything. I'm not one for social dating, hell, I haven't even kissed a girl, but I really do like her. I'm really at a loss here, how do I approach the situation
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