Guest Posted May 28, 2007 Posted May 28, 2007 I've been dating this woman for about 9 months, We work together and became close. She was in a bad marriage, where she was verbally and physically abused, and the relationship before the marriage the same thing happened. I honestly had no thoughts of hooking up with her when we were friends and she was married, I finally convinced her that she was to young to live her life unhappy. She finally got the courage up to file for divorce. Note she has a beautiful daughter age 3 and she is 24. When she decided to leave him she asked me if she wasn't married would I go out with her and date her. Of course I said yes, I instantly became attracted to her and we fell in love. We kept things on the downlow until the divorce was final, and then it became public knowledge. We have since talked about family getting married all the good stuff. Things have never been perfect, but I can see myself spending the rest of my life with this woman. We don't communicate very well, and spend alot of time texting. Note we live about an hour away from each other. I have given everything that i know to this relationship, I have built her confidence and her self esteem up greatly since we have been together. Lately she has been telling me that she isn't happy, that I have done nothing wrong, she say's that she feels like she has never been alone, or been in the dating scene, and she doesn't want to be the kind of girl who needs a man in her life to be happy. She had told me similiar things back when we were still on the downlow and I told her to got do what she had to do, go out with friends spend time with her family, that I would be here I wasn't going anywhere. She refused to do that. So now she tells me she is unhappy and wants to be alone, she actually has been out on a date after we broke up. That killed me. She says she wants to be friends until she can find out what makes her happy. I can't do that I love her and her daughter very much and can't stand to be apart. I can't look at her and be her friend and know what is going on in her life day to day. I told her to stop texting me and talking to me until she decides she wants to be with me or she is done with me. I told her that i would be here for her though if she needed anything. That's just about the jist of it. can somebody please help me out I am so lost and don't know what to do.
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