heggs Posted May 28, 2007 Posted May 28, 2007 Hey all Ok well where to start To start about a year and half years ago I meet this wonderful girl so i thought.. I meet her from one of my mates.. at his b day. So within the next few weeks we are callin each other and chatting online etc.. later that week we go out to the movies all is going great. two days later she asks me out.. so I said "sure" So we continue going out for a month or so then she says I pushed her away cause I was to serious and we use to argue. One week later shes back with her ex ... she told me the she was with him because she couldnt handle the arguememnts I agreed cause it all i could say cause I was hurting, They last about a month after the 4th time or being with him they end it because she didnt love him. Now.. two nights later her best friend "tegan" comes on msn asking me do I still love her and as I did.. i said yes.. STUPID mistake, That she calls me and tells me what happened etc we agree to fix it etc etc and she asks me to take her back I said yes.. So Another 2 months later it happens again we break up due to always figthning and arugring. This time she stays single for a month or so and.. After about a monthI get call of her seeing how I am and can i see you this weekend I said yes we went shopping we got close by the end of the night she hits the question, asking do you still love me I told her I still did. So we are back together again for the 3rd time for 2 months... but as all this had taken it toll on me etc the night before she was due to leave to visit her dad is south africa I called it due to being pushed me away and I needed time. I sent her 3 or 4 txts got a message saying "leave me alone I dont wanna know you anymore. So I stop txting her, 2 weeks later she sends a txt saying sorry etc etc I love you blah blah im sorry, i didnt reply. While she was away travelling to South africa as she was away I found another girl.. I was with this girl so I could feel loved cause i still loved her as a result she told me to never talk to her again.. Before she comes back to south africa approx a week I split with the other girl due to her cheating on me. She is back 3 weeks later. As it had been my bday when she was gone she came over for the day and spent time while she was over we were flirting etc etc it got emontinal "good way" as she asked if i loved her still i couldnt say yes or no, for the next few weeks we continung talkin knowing we love each other but I couldnt say I loved her. few weeks down the track with are friends with benifts shes stilling sleeping over my house at nights wasnt sex each night either. She had an excuse that she may be moving back to SA but it never happened so she said its best if we dont get together just yet. So we start gettin real close almost gf bf again.. I log onto msn confonted by her asking why i made a story as of me telling everyone we did anal? lol seriously what a joke and she belived them cause there was no trust. Soo after all this 3 weeks or so she had a new bf she tryed hiding it from me, she blocks me on msn and cuts contact. Since i know now shes backing talkin for a few months now and txting.. telling me shes misses us being together being mine, misses how i make her feel and how I touch her etc and THAT SHE LOVES ME for crying out loud. So with her new bf theyve been going out for 2 months or so now.. since then shes still says shes loves me and misses us being together, I asked her do you love him, she reply now im with him because I cant handle fighting with you all the time, she also inplyed that she wants to be mine again in 2 months LIKE WHAT THE ****? How can you have a new bf but still love you ex and want them back.. as she told me she needed to tell me she loved me even though she knows i dunt wanna hear it cause it hurts. She has told me she wants me back furthur. PS it her bday in 2 weeks i am invited, i havent replied to it as her bf will be there etc and it could be bad as her friends dislike me. On the other Ive been doin N/C for a week now.. she has contiosuly tryed contacting me on my space. As i talk to other chick freinds talking sweetly to them etc.. she has tryed adding them to her friends to check up on what im saying to them.. whas that about? All answers welcom
New Hope Posted May 28, 2007 Posted May 28, 2007 Never fear The Nope is here!! First and foremost, I give you credit for the NC, excellent move...You gonna NO Contact for a month or even longer if must, second keep talking to other women and moving on with your life cause your a man at the end of the day, and you need to act like one and not let this girl string you along like a yo-yo cause your not a toy...Its best you let your EX go man!! because she is A GUY-HOPPER, she left you once for someone else, she'll do it again, Stop offering your words of love to her..Stop it..ya not together no more so she needs to stop thinking about weither u still love her not, not her business no more, just like what u do is not ur business..your not going to that party...trust me dont go!! if theres true love from her towards you she is going to feel it, because she is going to be thinking about you like crazy trust me, all this im saying comes from experience....Dont fall for her words or tears because at the end of the day ACTION SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.........the dude she with is rebound.....Keep doing No Contact u'll heal, and move on with ur life in my opinion, its not worth breaking your head over girl, theres to many girls in this world...even though I know its hard when its love....But ur strong and u can do it
polywog Posted May 28, 2007 Posted May 28, 2007 Welcome to LS, heggs. I agree with NHope. And you are smart to do NC. She just sounds flakey, and you deserve someone much better who doesn't jerk you around. She is, in my opinion, a waste of your energy with the behavior she is exhibiting. Yes, it's hard to get over loving someone, but you can do it, and move on to a decent stable girl who won't treat you like this.
Author heggs Posted May 28, 2007 Author Posted May 28, 2007 Hey thank for all the help guys, use im still on N/c she still tryin to contact me via my space and txting. Whats with the whole myspace thing? checking up on me.. and tryin to add chicks ive been talkin to, sending letters saying i still love you dont let me go LOL. wanna know the sad thing, She logged onto myspace and looked around last night boy im pissed I was gonna call her decided not to and stood strong but arh! what the hell.
polywog Posted May 29, 2007 Posted May 29, 2007 There's not much you can do. She seems to be stalking/harassing you via myspace, which sucks because it's a way she's keeping her in your mind. Is there any way to ban someone from logging on to your space? If there is, do it. She's being a real jerk.
Author heggs Posted May 29, 2007 Author Posted May 29, 2007 Hey poly just go this email off her, i feel like telling her to f off and stay outta my life and never wanna be friends etc, but i have this feeling.. anyways heres the email. Im not sure if she means wants to be mine again or still loves m etc confused. ok well you sed closure? you mean closure by completly stop talking to me and then when i finally do open up to you which is what you asked me to do for months you just altogather stop talking to me? I understand you are over this crap but then why sed me that email about that party? and then why wen i try to get in contact with you cos ive been blocked go onto ur myspace and see that you calling some girl baby? im not sayin you cant call her that im just saying you said baby was only my nickname and it didnt feel right calling anyone else it, but you did tegan and then you wondered by it hurt me so much? Im not here to fight with you and make myself seem like a hero and that i want to be a huge part in your life again, its true i do but im not going keep opening up just to be shut down the next day. I want to be there for you and I want to be part of you life but atm i can only be as a friend. I understand if you want to hate me and never talk to me but if you need at least let me know so i know im not wasting my time wondering if you still wana b friends so do you honestly want me to leave you alone? kendall
polywog Posted May 29, 2007 Posted May 29, 2007 Heggs, I think this girl is more trouble than she's worth. She doesn't know what she wants, she is acting only in her own interest. She wants to keep you around and have the bf at the same time. Let her go, continue NC. Or stop it for a minute to tell her, make it clear, that you don't want to be involved with her as friends or lover, and to please leave you alone. Then stay away. You have feelings for her, but you'll get over them. Free yourself from her so you can move on with someone worthy.
Author heggs Posted May 29, 2007 Author Posted May 29, 2007 shall i just not reply at all.. or should i tell her how i feel etc.. cause im getting fed up with this im calling other girls baby or hun cause im single i can call them what i want,.. but yet shes sad cause i called them that yet.. im the one left out in the cold while she with another guy having sex with him etc.. but she dosent love him she loves me LOL. just cut off now or return with an email and say I can be niether.. will this make her complety forget about me or make her miss me (just as question). Thank poly
polywog Posted May 29, 2007 Posted May 29, 2007 shall i just not reply at all.. or should i tell her how i feel etc.. cause im getting fed up with this im calling other girls baby or hun cause im single i can call them what i want,.. but yet shes sad cause i called them that yet.. im the one left out in the cold while she with another guy having sex with him etc.. but she dosent love him she loves me LOL. just cut off now or return with an email and say I can be niether.. will this make her complety forget about me or make her miss me (just as question). Thank poly Well, does it matter whether she forgets about you or misses you, really? Maybe you'd like her to miss you so she wants you back? I don't think that's the way to go.... she's not a good gf, she wasn't to you and she's not to her current bf. If you send her a long email with all your complaints it only engages her in a dialogue with you, she'll want to argue her points, etc... Just say goodbye in a brief email asking her to leave you alone.
Author heggs Posted May 29, 2007 Author Posted May 29, 2007 so short and simple saying I can nor be your friend or lover.. Please leave me be. Goodbye. Good luck in life. that sound good?
polywog Posted May 29, 2007 Posted May 29, 2007 so short and simple saying I can nor be your friend or lover.. Please leave me be. Goodbye. Good luck in life. that sound good? Sounds good. Good Luck, heggs... there is definitely someone better out there, and when you heal from this one it will happen for you .
Author heggs Posted May 29, 2007 Author Posted May 29, 2007 thank poly I was to scared to do this before cause shes was the only who i truley loved.. had other gfs etc but atm i have no one intrested so i guess its all about hanging in there now and waiting it out. Thank again , time to let myself free, and let her go
Author heggs Posted May 29, 2007 Author Posted May 29, 2007 I told her poly, man was she upset and mad at me, the reply i got was "same to you, gud luck and hope u have a happy life" then she logged off and took off, shes mad but i had to tell her.
polywog Posted May 29, 2007 Posted May 29, 2007 I told her poly, man was she upset and mad at me, the reply i got was "same to you, gud luck and hope u have a happy life" then she logged off and took off, shes mad but i had to tell her. Good for you. Of course she's mad, she can't string you along anymore. Brave move, heggs
Author heggs Posted May 29, 2007 Author Posted May 29, 2007 dam i feel like a man unstopabble now, for some reason I feel happy
Author heggs Posted May 29, 2007 Author Posted May 29, 2007 LOL look at this istop talkin to her 20 mins later i get this msg i told you the truth wen i sed i still love you, its ur choice to believe it not. I dont have to keep justifing myself when we have discussed this many times. You said that you needed space and everything and im giving to to you, i owe you that but im not gona stand being insulted. Let go of your negativity towards me I wish you well and hope for the best Whys she still holding on i told her everything but she insitis she still loves me. GARH! wtf?
Author heggs Posted May 29, 2007 Author Posted May 29, 2007 Anyone got an idea whats shes trying to do? :S
Author heggs Posted May 30, 2007 Author Posted May 30, 2007 anyone experinced help with this. thank heggs
Author heggs Posted May 31, 2007 Author Posted May 31, 2007 Hey, poly!! when yu log on or see this can you help me justify why sees still saying this, here is the email again . LOL look at this istop talkin to her 20 mins later i get this msg i told you the truth wen i sed i still love you, its ur choice to believe it not. I dont have to keep justifing myself when we have discussed this many times. You said that you needed space and everything and im giving to to you, i owe you that but im not gona stand being insulted. Let go of your negativity towards me I wish you well and hope for the best Whys she still holding on i told her everything but she insitis she still loves me. GARH! wtf?
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