Citizen Erased Posted May 28, 2007 Posted May 28, 2007 Okay so my boyfriend has this friend, lets call him Dan. He works with him, they hang out etc. Dan is a very nice guy. Anyway, so we had a party and my best friend brought this girl we went to High School with. Let's call the girl Erin. To be blunt, Erin was the school bicycle. She would consider 4 sexual partners a month to be a slow month. Horrible to say, I know, but it is true. She isn't even a nice person at all, and she only really attracts the guys cos they know she is easy. So Dan and her hooked up, and now he has a thing for her, but she is currently sleeping with, or at least involved with, her ex, an old friend, my ex boyfriend and some new guy she just met, not to mention Dan now. My boyfriend and I have both tried to warn him away from her, but whatever we say he won't believe. She says we don't know her, but like I said my best friend is friends with her, I know she is still the same as before, because my bestfriend tells me It is so frustrating because he is so clueless and now it is causing trouble between my boyfriend and Dan. I know she will end up throwing him away when she gets bored but he just doesn't believe us. Apparently even though he has known her for about a month in comparison to our 5 years he knows her more He is starting to actually annoy me with his naiveté and the way he thinks she is so pure and nice So I guess this is more of a rant, but any suggestions of what to do would be nice
johan Posted May 28, 2007 Posted May 28, 2007 There isn't much you can do right now. You can't make him see the light. But like you said, she'll probably show it to him. And if he's that hooked on her, he'll need friends who understand. You do understand right? Guys fall for women like this all the time, as stupid as it seems to be. If he's annoying, then just cut back on time spent with him. After she reveals her true nature to him, you'll be seeing enough of him to make up for it. And he'll probably be pathetic for a while. Okay so my boyfriend has... ...a rant, but any suggestions of what to do would be nice
alphamale Posted May 28, 2007 Posted May 28, 2007 just keep your mouth(s) shut and let him find out for himself. it'll be a superb learning experience for him which will enable him to start his evolution from "nice guy" to "alpha male"
Je Ne Regrette Rien Posted May 28, 2007 Posted May 28, 2007 Unfortunately he has to make his own mistakes, and learn from them. You regaling him or your boyfriend about the pitfalls of this girl will only make you sound jealous or bitchy. Take the high road and let him find out for himself. At least you'll get the satisfaction of telling your boyfriend "I told you so" if it all goes wrong lol. But seriously, its his life, its his crush, its his mistake to make, not yours.
Author Citizen Erased Posted May 29, 2007 Author Posted May 29, 2007 Unfortunately he has to make his own mistakes, and learn from them. You regaling him or your boyfriend about the pitfalls of this girl will only make you sound jealous or bitchy. Take the high road and let him find out for himself. At least you'll get the satisfaction of telling your boyfriend "I told you so" if it all goes wrong lol. But seriously, its his life, its his crush, its his mistake to make, not yours. Actually my boyfriend is the one telling "Dan" what this girl is really like, and now they aren't as close as before. See I know he would listen to me, but I really don't want to get involved, as you said, it's his life not mine. I have backed up what my bf told him but nothing beyond that. Normally we wouldn't say anything at all, but Dan's last relationship ended up with his ex cheating on him.... with his cousin and it sucks knowing he is going to get screwed around again. Oh well, I guess I was just pissy yesterday cos I had to listen to him talking about her and having to hold my tongue :
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