chill chic Posted May 28, 2007 Posted May 28, 2007 The latest guy that I've been seeing for a few weeks now, is becoming more and more interesting to me and this sorta thing is new for me, which is what I've wanted for a long time now. I'm not putting all of my trust in it just yet, because it's still a new situation..but here is the scoop. My last thread I think I posted was about this guy that I've just started seeing, so...this is a continuation of that. Anyway..we saw each other last Thursday night, him and his friends were out an outside restaurant/bar, and he asked me to come along. So he's already introducing me to his friends! So I went, then one of my friends met up with me so it wasn't so awkward for me and that he could meet one of my friends. Then, I ended up going back to his place, my choice, so we could hang out more. Just me and him. Then Friday he dropped me off at my car, then I went to work. Then as I was leaving, he asked me if I wanted to hang out Saturday. He later texted me asking if I was going out that night, and I said yah, and that he'd meet up with me later. Well I was out with some friends, and got pretty drunk because we were partying, and I called him, since I was close to his place, and ended up crashing there, BUT WOW was I drunk, and he helped me out the whole night and actually slept on the couch so I could have his bed. Call me stupid, but I'm used to a guy wanting sex right then and there, and he respected me, by sleeping somewhere else. So I woke up this morning, yes he's seen me at my worst in the morning and still tells me I'm beautiful. But during our like make-out sessions, he's asked at least twice why I don't have a guy? Why does he keep asking me? Well...this morning his friend called who has a girlfriend and invited him to breakfast and he asked me. So I went, yah looked like sh*t I'm sure but had fun. Then later he wanted me to hang out with him again at his friend's place for a pool party which we actually went bowling instead. So...this whole day I've spent with him, and last Thursday, saw him Friday of course, then Saturday. And he even wants to do something tomorrow. Wow, he must really like me? Well the other good news is that we haven't had sex yet, and I'm thinking he's at least thinking more seriously than more fun with me, totally different than any guy I've ever met, sad to say. So ALL of this is new to me, and new to me on how to handle this. So I'm thinking he's genuinely interested in me? He's very respectful of me, and always opens doors, holds my hand sometimes, and has insisted on buying for everything if we go out, even if I insist that I pay my own way. OK so..here is another concern..he's on my myspace page, and he posted a bulletin, which I may have taken too seriously considering he's mostly funny. But he said that he's been down the past couple of days, which struck me as odd, especially if I hadn't noticed anything sad about him. So I messaged him saying "sorry to hear you've been down the past few days...why...and you can tell me?" Was that being too forward of me? Hopefully he takes it in a way that I show I care for him. But I can't tell if he's being serious or not, so I messaged him again saying "well just to let you know it's an understanding, hope to see you tomorrow, I had a nice time with you this weekend, thanks babe" But will that make things awkward if he's not ready to tell me, or if I assume that there might be something wrong? What's coming of this relationship so far? So far so good right?
DanielMadr Posted May 28, 2007 Posted May 28, 2007 He needs some signals you want have sex with him. And as long as you dont want to, he is probably wondering why....'Do you have a boyfriend' question. It doesnt matter now, b/c he probably thinks you are alcoholic anyway:D
Author chill chic Posted May 28, 2007 Author Posted May 28, 2007 well...hmmm...that didn't really answer the questions that I was wondering, but the point of the matter is that I was holding off on sex with this guy to see if he's really into me. Other guys that I've been with always want to try & sleep with me on the first night. And when this guy hasn't pushed the sex issue and still wants to spend time with me, probably says alot. Am I going about it the right way? I'm trying to up my standards and respect myself for once.
sb129 Posted May 28, 2007 Posted May 28, 2007 I think I have told you off for overanalysing stuff before chillchic!! I think he sounds great. He isn't pushing you, and I think thats a really good sign. Enjoy it! It sounds like it is working out just fine.
fallendisguise Posted May 28, 2007 Posted May 28, 2007 I agree with SB. Don't overanalyze this. Yes it's hard not to, but have fun and enjoy it. I would say keep hanging out with him and wait to have sex until your comfortable and see that this is heading somewhere if that is what you want. He does sound genuinely interested in you and he probably keeps asking you about you having a boyfriend because he might be thinking your a good catch/beautiful so why wouldn't you? Just be yourself. Don't put yourself in the position of worrying about everything you say... it's hard not to when you are in the beginning of being with someone, but it's more important to be yourself. There is nothing wrong with caring, just don't over do it. If he doesn't bring up why he was down again or reply to what you said then don't push it. Just have fun and good luck!
Author chill chic Posted May 30, 2007 Author Posted May 30, 2007 Ok so I might be overanalyzing YET again but...last Sunday was when I spent practically all day with him, and later on with him & his friends bowling. I could tell that he was making sexual comments, so I told him I was horny for him. He just kinda grabbed my leg but didn't say anything, so it was kind of an awkward moment. So when he dropped me off at my car, we had a lil makeout session again, he called me baby, and told me that he'd like to hang out again (meaning Monday) so Monday came, I hadn't heard from him, I was excited if he did call me but then I was thinking that maybe it would be better if we took this day as a space day. So I didn't contact him, he didn't contact me, assuming he felt the same way. Well..I looked on his myspace, he had changed his pic, so I text messaged him "nice pic, nite nite" it was really late, so I wasn't expecting a text back. I took a closer look at his myspace page today and one of his friends who is an out of town girl, made a comment saying "sorry about the girl that couldn't resemble the looks of me" So I was thinking..hmm..I wonder if he said something about me to this girl since he hung out with me all weekend. This girl is not pretty, she's not as skinny as me, but I can't imagine what he had said, if he did say something about me. THEN this other out of town girl friend of his, messaged him something vague, so I looked at her page to see what he said and he wrote a comment on one of her pictures "you there with the curves, can you come visit?" SO...me being MISS paranoid, I'm assuming he likes more curvy women, like ya know with big boobs or not as skinny I presume. BUT why would he spend so much time with me, compliment me, and then come to the conclusion that I might not be there in the big boob department? So..I tested him to see if he was still interested by asking him if he wanted to go to the movies tonight, since we had talked about going sometime soon. He texted back, "I wish I could but I have a business dinner tonight" so I texted back "oh ok well then another night this week if you can" then he wrote back "maybe thursday or friday. busy week" which I understand because it's a busy work week for him, he already told me a week before. BUT I'm wondering if he still seems interested?????
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