dorky328 Posted May 28, 2007 Posted May 28, 2007 so my ex broke up with me a little over a year ago i was miserable for a while, read alot of posts here .. got over it, moved on with life and have been dating with some success completely over her .. and decided to keep in touch .. you know, the happy birthday, once in a while check ins to see what is going on (meaningful/caring but non-needy emails and chats) so recently i informed her on chat of my current situ (really into a girl who i've been dating for a few weeks) .. mind you , our chats were limited to 5 min conversations once a week or less (she is in a diff country right now wil be back nxt month) and a couple of months ago it was her idea to "hang out" once she gets back in town so now she blocks me on IM and did not return a couple of "what's going on in town when you might be here" kind of msgs i sent her (since she was the one who brought up the idea of hangin out when she gets back in town) WTF!? i'm thinking here .. she is SO upset to see my life is great without her (i know she is not happy when it comes to her love/sex life) and i know i bring back a lot of memories (i cut her off in chat once when she started reminiscing .. i changed topic not so subtly) hahah .. can this really be revenge of the dumped?! i really feel the tables have turned at the same time .. i still CARE about her .. i mean i LOVED her and she was a huge part of my life (almost married her) so my question .. why would she do this? block me on CHAT and suddenly stop returning my "rare-but-meaningful" emails i just don't think she can handle the "i'm now so cool with just being friendly" thoughts comments?
Tony T Posted May 28, 2007 Posted May 28, 2007 Could be several things. Often, an ex doesn't really want a relationship with you but he or she (in your case "she") doesn't want you in a relationship with anybody else either. It's kind of a territorial thing. She expressed a desire to hang out. That may have been a sign that she was interested in exploring the possibility of getting back with you. But when she got to thinking that you were happy dating other people, she may have decided it would be easier on her emotionally just not to talk to you or have contact with you in any way than to go through some anticipated difficulty with a renewed personal association with you. If you actually wanted her back in your life, you should have been very vague with her about your current social life. You have let go of her. Now, just don't think about what her motives are. Just leave it alone and go about your business. She sounds immature and she certainly doesn't have your happiness in mind if she's jerking you around like this. Sounds like you're the winner here by not having her come back to screw you over a second time. Congratulations!
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