Author Star Gazer Posted May 29, 2007 Author Posted May 29, 2007 I don't know. The whole "Things have gotten busy. It's difficult to plan, but we should get together soon" text he sent sounds a bit off to me. After all, he "planned" to go to the wedding. In my experience a guy says something like that because he will be calling you up last minute for a booty call. He doesn't want you to expect planned dates, etc., like most interested guys do in a relationship. So, I would surmise he's not after a relationship, but rather a "get together whenever we can, or when I'm horny" kind of thing. Maybe not. Just throwing it out there. You'll have to wait and see. I'd be careful if you want a relationship. If you do, then make sure he treats you like a girlfriend and that includes making plans in advance, as well as some spontaneous last minute dates. Now, he IS a FF, so he will have a difficult schedule. But he knows his days off, and can make some plans with you. Doesn't he have a three day on, three or four days off kind of schedule? (My friend's husband was a FF, too.) Have fun on your date! It would be great if he could catch wind of your date somehow. That might light a fire under him, so to speak. It's difficult to plan because it's fire season. He often picks up OT and/or gets called in if there's a big fire. He does know his regular schedule, but it is on the weekends, whereas I have the weekends off - our schedules are opposite. Because of this and the fact that we live at least an hour and a half apart, a quick "booty call" is kinda...out of the question. Our dates have always been planned a week in advance, with the understanding that things could change last minute if sparks fly (in the forest/farm land, that is!). I'm honestly not even sure how he was able to go to the wedding, or how he's going to the one this weekend - it's in the middle of his shift. It could explain why he's been working so much OT though. I don't know. I'll just see how things go if/when he contacts me again.
allina Posted May 29, 2007 Posted May 29, 2007 Something like a wedding is planned months and months in advance, and since his friends wedding is a big deal I'm sure he made plans to go months ago. It would have been nice if he invited you SG, but if he made plans to go with someone else a while back it's understandable that he didn't break that plan. As for calling/texting after 30 minutes. I thin playing the waiting game is super cheesy and transparent. If you receive a call or message it's normal to reply upon receiving it. I alway dislike advice about waiting x number of days or hours, it looks scripted. Games aren't necessary, just pay close attention to his actions. If you're still interested, let him pursue things, just make sure he isn't planning on being someone who pops in to your life a couple of times a month then disappears as he pleases.
Author Star Gazer Posted May 30, 2007 Author Posted May 30, 2007 Nope. But he sent me another random text yesterday about his schedule. I didn't respond. He needs to put more effort in than this crapola.
Lishy Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 Star you are in control now honey! Its your choice now and to be honest I think you need to only reply to texts that mean something! I think you have made the right move ignoring his yesterday text and I guarantee he is wondering why you didnt reply He probably thinks his schlong is so special you would be craving it and contacting him and you are not ...... Good stuff babe! Keep us informed on any progress hon
champagne Posted May 30, 2007 Posted May 30, 2007 look ST....if I slept with come chick then didn't contact her for a few wks and then i finally called her and she.......quote]
fray718 Posted June 5, 2007 Posted June 5, 2007 So what's the update? Did you two end up going out afterward?...a part of me still hopes that things can be turned around....
BonneKarma Posted June 5, 2007 Posted June 5, 2007 Actually, I disagree. I don't think everything else in his life should be more important than you if he's really interested. Two weeks is a long time. I think it's good for people to maintain their friendships and interests when dating, but a phonecall is easy. I spent years making excuses for guys exactly like this. They were only sorta interested in me, not good enough.
Author Star Gazer Posted June 5, 2007 Author Posted June 5, 2007 I have decided that my Mr. Happily Ever After will be a guy who calls the next day and puts me ahead of the lame things he has made a priority. Period. He didn't. While he has since contacted me several times on his own, he waited FAR too long to put in any effort whatsoever, and what effort he has put forth has been about this much: { } Not enough. Too little, too late. I'm over it. On to better things.
DanielMadr Posted June 5, 2007 Posted June 5, 2007 Star you are in control now honey! Its your choice now and to be honest I think you need to only reply to texts that mean something! I think you have made the right move ignoring his yesterday text and I guarantee he is wondering why you didnt reply He probably thinks his schlong is so special you would be craving it and contacting him and you are not ...... Good stuff babe! Keep us informed on any progress hon I smell power games. Nothing good will come out of it. Only more resentment on both sides. Replying to messages is a polite thing to do, at least. What sort of message would you be OK with?
DanielMadr Posted June 5, 2007 Posted June 5, 2007 I have decided that my Mr. Happily Ever After will be a guy who calls the next day and puts me ahead of the lame things he has made a priority. Period. He didn't. While he has since contacted me several times on his own, he waited FAR too long to put in any effort whatsoever, and what effort he has put forth has been about this much: { } Not enough. Too little, too late. I'm over it. On to better things. Oh. Im sorry about that.
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