FreeSpirit07 Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 My girlfriend and I broke up. We got along very well; we had a lot of common interests. I'm not sure why it ended, but it did. I'm really sad about it, but I suppose it was for the best.. See the following link for details of our relationship..http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?p=1201401 Recently, she emailed me a mini-break up note saying that she can't give me the attention that I deserve. So I emailed back saying I can give her room and such, saying that I would love to give our relationship a second shot. Her response: "Well, I'm really sorry I have to throw this at you after you've had a bad day at work, but I actually have 15 minutes to sit down for a moment so.. I'm really sorry, but I just can't do the dating thing anymore. I still wanna be your friend, obviously, but yeah. I just kind of hope I've given you a little more confidence. If anything, that's what I was hoping for. You're so shy all the time. It's okay to be heard. Go for what you want. Don't worry about people all along the way and what not." A few questions arose in my mind when I read this..was I played? It seemed real..but maybe I was wrong all along. Did she truely love me like I did for her? I'm also really curious if it was because it was me, she found some other guy that she failed to mention, or she's tired of dating. She has had like 4 other boyfriends (one of which proposed to her during her Junior year..). I'm not sure, however, if it's proper to ask. I would really like to know though.. Anyway, it's been tough. I can't stop thinking about her: what we've done together, her smile, her kissing, etc. It's almost overwhelming that we'll never hang out and have fun much anymore. I kind of want to forget, but yet I don't. It's also a little un-nerving to think about when she's with some other person doing the same things we did together.. Well, thanks much for taking the time to read this. Any help/advice/support would be appreciated.
funkybassplayer Posted June 3, 2007 Posted June 3, 2007 dont be a friend you will only suffer. Say what you have to say to her good or bad, but dont be nasty, otherwise in weeks to come you will regret not saying what you feel, then leave her world as best you can. You cant do no contact right away there are answers to questions that you may need to know. If your lucky to get answers, you will be at peace. good luck.
Star Gazer Posted June 3, 2007 Posted June 3, 2007 Read my response on your other thread. This isn't about getting played, this is about the two of you being in VERY different phases of your life. If she has met someone else, that someone else is probably in the same phase she is, so they are more compatible right now. Please know that this has nothing to do with YOU. It's about the differences between the two of you at this time that neither one of you can change or force. Like I said before, once you get to where she is, you'll understand. You can try to be friends, but I believe your friendship will fizzle out once she starts college. She will have way too much stuff going on, focusing on her new college life, and her absence/silence will drive you crazy thinking it's about you (again) when it's really about her new life. I know it's hard, but you really just need to let her go.
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