sweetscarlet Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 I'm going to visit someone who lives out of town. They date others and don't want anything serious. I don't even know if i'd see them again (but would like to know). What's the best attitude to have towards them? Distant? Is there anyway to find out anything without looking less than casual? It's like I have these questions running through my mind but I know that i'm not supposed to care so I feel like I can't ask them for fear of it being a turn-off to them.
Tropical_Mango Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 Relax, be yourself and have fun! Thats the whole point of a casual relasionship! If thats not what you want and your not comfortable with it, move on. Sounds like you might be looking for something more.........
Author sweetscarlet Posted May 27, 2007 Author Posted May 27, 2007 Relax, be yourself and have fun! Thats the whole point of a casual relasionship! If thats not what you want and your not comfortable with it, move on. Sounds like you might be looking for something more......... But if you like someone, don't you want to see them again--even if it's casual?
Author sweetscarlet Posted May 27, 2007 Author Posted May 27, 2007 No point in being distant, that's no fun! It seems the more distant I am, the more he likes me.
Tropical_Mango Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 But if you like someone, don't you want to see them again--even if it's casual? Yes, but if you want more than something casual then its probably better to save yourself the hurt and find someone else that wants the same thing as you. If your really happy with keeping things casual and simple then i guess you could see him as many times as you like......
Author sweetscarlet Posted May 27, 2007 Author Posted May 27, 2007 Yes, but if you want more than something casual then its probably better to save yourself the hurt and find someone else that wants the same thing as you. If your really happy with keeping things casual and simple then i guess you could see him as many times as you like...... He doesn't live close, so I guess I'd like to know if this is a one-time thing or not. I guess you can't know ahead of time though.
Author sweetscarlet Posted May 27, 2007 Author Posted May 27, 2007 Yes, but if you want more than something casual then its probably better to save yourself the hurt and find someone else that wants the same thing as you. If your really happy with keeping things casual and simple then i guess you could see him as many times as you like...... Yeah, I found someone like that, only i don't like him enough. I only went out with him a few times and he's in love with me.
Tropical_Mango Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 He doesn't live close, so I guess I'd like to know if this is a one-time thing or not. I guess you can't know ahead of time though. Neither of you will really know if its a one time thing or not until you have spent some time with each other. If its akward you may not want to see him again or if you have a great time you may want to see him often (or vica versa). Unfortunatly it looks as though the ball is more in his court as to where things go, which is unfair............
Tony T Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 It seems the more distant I am, the more he likes me. This is NOT the kind of person most people would consider dating material unless you have issues with commitment. If that be the case, then he would be ideal. If you're not in the market for the REAL thing, this guy might just be what the doctor ordered.
Author sweetscarlet Posted May 28, 2007 Author Posted May 28, 2007 Neither of you will really know if its a one time thing or not until you have spent some time with each other. If its akward you may not want to see him again or if you have a great time you may want to see him often (or vica versa). Unfortunatly it looks as though the ball is more in his court as to where things go, which is unfair............ I know things won't be awkward..so no problems there. I guess I'm just wondering how he's thinking of this is all. And at the same time, I wonder what is attractive to a person like this.
Author sweetscarlet Posted May 28, 2007 Author Posted May 28, 2007 This is NOT the kind of person most people would consider dating material unless you have issues with commitment. If that be the case, then he would be ideal. If you're not in the market for the REAL thing, this guy might just be what the doctor ordered. Yeah I know it's not the kind of person to consider for dating material. It's not that I don't look for others...I do. But they don't match up in other areas. I don't know the answer to that.
Recommended Posts