Can'tGiveUp Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 but I don't know how to stop it! Logically I know that I shouldn't be. But despite what the head says, there is always the little voice inside that says I'm not worth the time or attention from a good guy. I try not to show this insecurity either. Most of my acquaintances would never use the word insecure to describe me. Only a couple of close friends know that it exists. I have been seeing someone for the past month or so. Granted, part of this insecurity arises from the significant age difference. What he sees in someone my age is beyond me. (Of course, the logical voice kicks in with the fact that I don't look anywhere near my age) He did know that I was uncomfortable with it and pursued me anyway. And I decided that if this was the only age group of guys asking me out, well, time to give in and try. And its good. We went out for a few dates and I really like him. Of course one thing led to another and we had sex... Then the insecurities kicked in again. And I didn't hear from him from that Saturday until Wednesday (he had a really good reason). Okay - I let it show again and told him I was glad that he had called. His response was along the lines of "WTF?? You didn't think I'd call?" I played it cool and just said "Well, I wasn't sure." Since then he calls every couple of days. He works out of town sometimes (like this weekend) and he calls just to say Hi and touch base...not long conversations but a quick catch up. He talks about doing things in the future, not far future but going for dinner to a new restaurant, going out of town for a weekend, doing things around my house for me...things like that. I just hate that deep inside me, there is a part that thinks that one day the calls will just stop. That he'll drop out of sight without a word. Sorry...just a little rant at myself. Maybe I need to try the Stuart Smalley Daily Affirmation...
Tropical_Mango Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 I was just having a chat with a female pal and we were talking about our insecurities with guys. She was saying that whenever she meets a nice, handsome, eligible guy she (for some reason) convinces herself that she is not good enough for him, he can do much better, then she runs away. Ive watched her do it many times to lovely worthy men, but yet she still remains single. We agreed that she obviously needed to have a think about her self worth issues and that it was great positive progress in identifying what the issue was. The first step to dealing with a problem is recognising that you have one, a problem shared is also a problem halved
jcster Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 Maybe I need to try the Stuart Smalley Daily Affirmation... Do that...it really helps! Remember, he WANTS to go out with you! He pursued YOU. Tell yourself whatever you need to say, but realize that the insecurity is coming from inside, not outside.
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