ahah2322 Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 hey, my exboyfriend and i broke up yesterday. it was unanimous. we still love each other. however, we were having problems and we agreed that maybe it would be best if we went our own ways. it was a very dignified breakup and we both cried. the breakup really put a nice closure to this magical relationship in which we both know will stay edged in our minds in the years to come. we wished each other the best in our future endeavours. i accept the breakup but it's just so hard to let 2.5yrs of friendship& love come to a halt. this is my first post and i am hoping to seek some form of support from this forum. I know it will not be easy but i will be strong.
Freedom Now Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 hey, my exboyfriend and i broke up yesterday. it was unanimous. we still love each other. however, we were having problems and we agreed that maybe it would be best if we went our own ways. it was a very dignified breakup and we both cried. the breakup really put a nice closure to this magical relationship in which we both know will stay edged in our minds in the years to come. we wished each other the best in our future endeavours. i accept the breakup but it's just so hard to let 2.5yrs of friendship& love come to a halt. this is my first post and i am hoping to seek some form of support from this forum. I know it will not be easy but i will be strong. It is difficult when you leave a relationship not due to a lack of feelings but compatability. I have done this and it is incredibly hard. Prepare for some difficult days and moments. They are to be expected. I am sorry you are hurting.
Living_For_Me Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 It is difficult to experience break ups based on incompatibility. Just keep your head high and try and think that it was probably for the best. When the pain subsides you will be able to look back with fond memories.
Spidey12 Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 hey, my exboyfriend and i broke up yesterday. it was unanimous. we still love each other. however, we were having problems and we agreed that maybe it would be best if we went our own ways. it was a very dignified breakup and we both cried. the breakup really put a nice closure to this magical relationship in which we both know will stay edged in our minds in the years to come. we wished each other the best in our future endeavours. i accept the breakup but it's just so hard to let 2.5yrs of friendship& love come to a halt. this is my first post and i am hoping to seek some form of support from this forum. I know it will not be easy but i will be strong. I'm very sorry to hear that. But do you know how many people would kill to be in your situation? Count your blessings, its not easy to let go of someone you love, but its definitately easier to mutually agree to let go of each other than it is to get rejected. You'll have ups and downs in the next few weeks, but make sure that you remember a person's character is defined not by their strong moments, but rather what they do during the weak moments. Hope all is well for you.
Double D Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 Hi & Welcome! I know its sounds weord but I am really happy for both of you. To be mature and honest enough to realise and accept how things were and to deal with it in such a way. This will hold you in good stead. I know its hard because you have lost not only your lover but a very dear friend. Remember your good times and keep going forward.
McFadden Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 hey, my exboyfriend and i broke up yesterday. it was unanimous. we still love each other. however, we were having problems and we agreed that maybe it would be best if we went our own ways. it was a very dignified breakup and we both cried. the breakup really put a nice closure to this magical relationship in which we both know will stay edged in our minds in the years to come. we wished each other the best in our future endeavours. i accept the breakup but it's just so hard to let 2.5yrs of friendship& love come to a halt. this is my first post and i am hoping to seek some form of support from this forum. I know it will not be easy but i will be strong. I wish any of my break ups had ever been this dignified and unanimous, or at least not involved screaming, stalking, dissapearing acts, threatening, the police, ect. Anyway joking aside I know it is still hard, possibly harder since you have no one to be angry at. Hopefully you can eventually be friends so that everything doesn't have to be thrown away.
Author ahah2322 Posted June 7, 2007 Author Posted June 7, 2007 hey guys, surprisingly, i've been doing really well. was initially crushed by this unfateful loss but after 2days, i'm feeling really delightful. for one, i'm a truly optimistic person who loves myself and life too much. well, i still love him but i guess we're not meant to be at this point to time, not when my studies make me too busy for him- and i want nothing but the best for him. however, i still harbour sweet thoughts of us getting back together perhaps some time in the future/ years from now if fate permits, if circumstances do not get in the way again, and if we are truly destined for each other. it should be noted that this hope does not mess with my head. these thoughts do not cause me distress or cause me to engage in frivolous acts at all... hence, i find that extremely perplexing. is it weird to cherish the thought that maybe years from now, we will somehow find each other again??? im a 'fairytale' kind of girly girl so naturally i believe in the 'first true love' thing. but it does not mess with my head. sounds quite contradictory... i know. it was my 18th birthday on june5. he called me to wish me a happy birthday but i did not pick up the call. so he messaged me instead. the message reads 'hey, just wanted to wish you a happy 18th birthday. hope you are doing fine. i still think of you. have fun!'. i still think of you?? anyway, i did not reply his message either. his mom also sent me a birthday greeting to which i replied amicably and wished her a fabulous time on her impending wedding anniversary. his mom and i are on good terms with each other. his birthday is on the 11th june. should i also wish him a happy birthday? i'm so confused. would love hearing from you guys on both the aforementioned issues!
Author ahah2322 Posted June 10, 2007 Author Posted June 10, 2007 it's his birthday tomorrow. should i send him a greeting? i truly miss him quite a bit... but i don't want to ruin chances of us getting back together in the future.
passionpeach Posted June 10, 2007 Posted June 10, 2007 hey, my exboyfriend and i broke up yesterday. it was unanimous. we still love each other. however, we were having problems and we agreed that maybe it would be best if we went our own ways. it was a very dignified breakup and we both cried. the breakup really put a nice closure to this magical relationship in which we both know will stay edged in our minds in the years to come. we wished each other the best in our future endeavours. i accept the breakup but it's just so hard to let 2.5yrs of friendship& love come to a halt. this is my first post and i am hoping to seek some form of support from this forum. I know it will not be easy but i will be strong. I think that you are doing just fine. You are really brave in accepting that fact that it is over already. Not all people have the capability to do that. Most people, especially women keep on sulking on what could have been and eventually tries to push for the relationship to work. Right now, you can keep yourself busy and not think much on how your relationship turned out. Do not rush yourself to move on though. Just ride the waves. Cry if you feel like crying. Sooner or later you will find yourself totally recovered and ready to love again.
passionpeach Posted June 10, 2007 Posted June 10, 2007 it's his birthday tomorrow. should i send him a greeting? i truly miss him quite a bit... but i don't want to ruin chances of us getting back together in the future. I will say that greeting him happy birthday is not a bad idea at all. Just be sure that you leave it at that. Do not go hoping that you guys will be back again. I am not saying that it is impossible for you guys to reconcile but it also doesn't necessarily mean that you will end up together again just because you are in talking terms. Just keep it at the friends/acquaintances level for now. Do not assume. Do not jump ahead lest you end up hurting yourself if things do not turn out as you expected them to. If you don't end up together then at least you know that you will be fine. If you end up together again then what a big surprise! So just take it slow. This is your best move for a win-win situation. You are strong. I can see that. You can go through this I know.
Author ahah2322 Posted June 10, 2007 Author Posted June 10, 2007 hey guys so i sent him this message to sincerely wish him a happy 19th birthday since he and his parents did the same for me. they are really nice people. me: hey jt(his initials), just want to wish you a happy 19th birthday. do take lotsa care and have a fabulous one. him:(less than a minute later) thank you.. how are you doing? i started tearing... its so nice to be friends... and all the wonderful memories flooded back. gosh, inundating. to which i replied me:awesome. hope you are well yourself. him: well, i'm alright... under a ton of work lately. do you think we can have dinner sometime soon? me: i don't think so... in any case, be well (yes, i did put a smiley, fearing to appear rude/cold cos its not my intention) him: hmm.. i guess life just have to move on. end gosh, his last statement struck my heart. reality bites i guess. well... i was very sincere. never trying to manipulate or play 'ne games. like i said, i accept the breakup. was okay (coping, living a wonderful life still) until just now. the feelings were overwhelming. teared for a bit then i told myself to be a strong babygirl. i don't think i could stand having dinner with him... not as friends.. at least not so soon... until im cool and totally over it. then i think we will be awesome friends. until now im still not that strong a girl. would like you guys to reply. thanks.
sb129 Posted June 10, 2007 Posted June 10, 2007 Wow. I wish I had been as strong and dignified as you when I was 19. Well done- you are doing great. Hope you stick around LS, your input would be great for other people in similar situations as you.
Author ahah2322 Posted June 11, 2007 Author Posted June 11, 2007 thanks SB, i will. LS is a truly fantastic and warm community.
funkybassplayer Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 Hi please just leave each other now, dont be friends, i had a breakup like yours we kissed on the lips and i wanted to say goodbye, she wanted to be friends (she had 3 kids that i loved too) i agreed, and it has been the worst 7 weeks. She has met someone else afetr just a week of our split, comnpleatly ignors me, and im hurt as this friendship seemed to be a lie. I wish i could turn back the clock and go to that day when we kissed goodbye. now all i have is a bitter feeling and i have lost some self respect. I miss them all so much, but my last memories are not sweet. i hope one day we will meet again and be friends as we wanted, but due to a new guy, at the moment thats impossible. I learnt a hard lesson. Dont be a friend with an ex you love.
Author ahah2322 Posted June 12, 2007 Author Posted June 12, 2007 today's kevjumba's birthday! (hello youtubers, if any) for all those following my story: anyway, it was his birthday yesterday. was at home doing random things (not moping though) and in the midst of idling and mostly procrastinating, i got a message from desmond, his close friend. he said that JT misses me very much and they (all of his close friends who were having dinner with him) hope that i will give his heart another chance. well so his friends spoke up for him and even though i thought it was cute, i didn't want to make a hasty decision or any decision at all, at least not through his friends. it would be disrespectful to everyone. so i replied politely and amicable: hey desmond! gosh what can i say. he replied soon after: can jt call you? it will be nice if you can hear what he has to say. he really wants to hear your voice. i felt a sudden rush of anxiety. gosh its been so long since ive heard his voice (2 weeks). he called and said something along the lines of how desmond took the words off his heart and that he really misses me. his entire family missed me.how he've been truly aimless, akin to a 'walking zombie', him being unhappy and forlorn on his birthday et cetera. gosh. i felt so sad and guity that he's been though all this because ive been fine and dandy after a couple of days (sure i missed him but i wasnt dejected nor depressed). he's a nice guy and i only want for him to be happy. anyway he cabbed all the way to my house. and he got me back it was so daunting to accept him back again because it means that changes must be executed: i must really manage my school time properly to even have time to meet him and he, learning to accept that ive got my own things to do and that i have frivolous girl hobbies which he simply abhors. i still feel a sense of slight trepidation to say the least but since we decided to commmit, lets hope we will be well for all you guys, i just want to share something with you all. those involved in a break up, please love youself. do love yourself enough not to try and manipulate your other half or allow yourself to wallow in self pity. this is quite undignified and disrespectful to not only the relationship but to yourself as well. just be well, stay happy and be the princes/princesses that you all are. only this then will people tressure you. even if they don't, you'll be happy yourself. its not easy i know (though i don't have much experience as mine wasnt an exactly long relationship. only 2.5 years compared to the manymany years of precious love im sure you guys harboured) but it really is the remedy to not only a broken heart but also the secret to a fulfiling life. i'm only 18 but i hope this helps.. thank you guys. will still stick around LS cos it really is a fantastic community.
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