JD88 Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 This girl and I had been friends for about a year. Then one night we both found out that we felt a bit more than friends for each other when we suddenly began to make out. We spent the entire night in each other's arms and she told me that she had feelings for me from the first time we met. I left early that morning and about a week later we saw each other again. I suddenly got scared of the situation and told her that I didn't want anything serious and we should just have fun with this instead of anything mucking the friendship (even though I really didn't mean this). She began acting very cold and distant towards me and turned away when I tried to kiss her (even though we were kissing earlier in the day) but kept a smile on her face as if nothing was different. I got weirded out and told her to call me if she wanted to talk about anything which she didn't and we quickly drifted apart and soon lost contact all together. A few months later, I realized the mistake that I made and couldn't get her out of my head... so I sent an e-mail for us to go out and grab a drink so that we could talk about things. She wrote back to say that she had moved to an entirely new city (very far away) because of some job prospects. That she might stay for a few months or maybe permanent depending on the job situation. I can't stop thinking about this girl and keep replaying if only I'd gotten on the ball sooner. Any advice on what I should do in this case where I might rectify my mistake or try anything at all if that is she is even still interested?
Lizzie60 Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 I'm afraid it's too late now... Move on... forget her. I can't stop thinking about this girl and keep replaying if only I'd gotten on the ball sooner. Well you got to stop thinking about her and most importantly, STOP replaying it... it serves absolutely no purpose, it is too late, she probably has already forget about you and found someone else. From what she wrote, she has moved on. I know it sucks but it's life and it is probably for the best... something even better is just around the corner...but as long as you will obsessed over this girl you will not see other possibilities. Take care, good luck!
jcster Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 If you really want to have a chance with her, you should make an effort to see her. It may not work out - she may truly have moved on - but at least you'll know you tried. Is it at all possible for you to make a trip out to where she is? If not, you should try having the conversation on the phone. Either way, you're going to have to be completely honest with her and tell her how you feel or else it's over. You were friends for a year - she should at least hear you out.
Author JD88 Posted June 6, 2007 Author Posted June 6, 2007 Thanks for the responses. I took your advice jcster and I did ask her in an e-mail that if we could go for a drink and talk if she's ever back in town and it just so happened she was back in town visiting her family. So a few days later we went out for a drink and in not so many words I told her that in the last 3 months I realized what was important and the mistake that I made but that I don't expect any type of response from her. We were both pretty quiet after that and as I was driving her home she invited me to one of her parent's birthday party. So I went to that and it went alright. Didn't have too much time to spend with her as she was with her family. I found out that she is having an amazing time there but she still misses it here and that she is going to be taking time in coming back here to be with her family and back there to work. At the end I asked her if she'd like to go out again. She seemed somewhat hesitant at first and said she might be flying back but isn't sure. Since then we haven't spoken. Is there anything more I should do? What lost me in the first place was not being persistent... would more persistence work getting back into her life? Thanks.
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