SergeantSafrit Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 I've known this girl for about 3 years I would consider her a good friend, and we've been hanging out with each other a lot lately, like an entire 26 hours together and we slept only 4 of those, we spent the night in the same bed and I believe she was giving me signs to kiss her, I was like 95% sure, but I held back. The other night we hung out and I said, there is something I have been meaning to do for a long time, and I leaned in. She pulled back and I said what can I not kiss you? She said don't make it any harder and don't be disheartened, and she said she was going through drama and I asked if that mattered and she said she didn't know why it did but it did. She then said she's thought about it many times, especially the night we slept in the same bed (when I was 95% sure she wanted me to kiss her but I held back). She siad she's wanted to but shes held it back, I said I had too. She then said don't worry it'll happen. She went home that night and the next day I visited her at work, everything seemed normal, but a little weird at the same time. The next day after I visited her at work I called her and she answered and everything seemed normal on the phone too. However i've called her 3 times since, over the past 2 days, and i've left 2 messages, but she hasn't called me back. How much longer should I wait to call her if she hasn't called me and should I visit her at work today if its a regular stop for me on my way to work? She has had instances in the past where i'll call her and she won't call me back then like 2 weeks later i'll call her and she'll be fine. i'm just kind of curious if shes avoiding me or just being too busy to return my calls. Also the last time she answered I called her on my cell with a listed # and my cell is now dead so i had to call with my house number that has a restricted #, and that may be why she hasn't answered, because she doesn't answer private numbers. But that still doesn't explain why she hasn't called me back. Oh well, maybe i'm worring to much and I should just visit her today.
ilmw Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 I've known this girl for about 3 years I would consider her a good friend, and we've been hanging out with each other a lot lately, like an entire 26 hours together and we slept only 4 of those, we spent the night in the same bed and I believe she was giving me signs to kiss her, I was like 95% sure, but I held back. The other night we hung out and I said, there is something I have been meaning to do for a long time, and I leaned in. She pulled back and I said what can I not kiss you? She said don't make it any harder and don't be disheartened, and she said she was going through drama and I asked if that mattered and she said she didn't know why it did but it did. She then said she's thought about it many times, especially the night we slept in the same bed (when I was 95% sure she wanted me to kiss her but I held back). She siad she's wanted to but shes held it back, I said I had too. She then said don't worry it'll happen. She went home that night and the next day I visited her at work, everything seemed normal, but a little weird at the same time. The next day after I visited her at work I called her and she answered and everything seemed normal on the phone too. However i've called her 3 times since, over the past 2 days, and i've left 2 messages, but she hasn't called me back. How much longer should I wait to call her if she hasn't called me and should I visit her at work today if its a regular stop for me on my way to work? She has had instances in the past where i'll call her and she won't call me back then like 2 weeks later i'll call her and she'll be fine. i'm just kind of curious if shes avoiding me or just being too busy to return my calls. Also the last time she answered I called her on my cell with a listed # and my cell is now dead so i had to call with my house number that has a restricted #, and that may be why she hasn't answered, because she doesn't answer private numbers. But that still doesn't explain why she hasn't called me back. Oh well, maybe i'm worring to much and I should just visit her today. Hi, Do us a favour.. break up your posts into spaced paragraphs makes it easier to read... What ever you do... DO NOT PURSUE this woman... she will run from you like a deer from wolves... What is her drama..? Is it an ex.. or family issues? You need to know this stuff... If she is damaged.. and not over her "issues" she is not relationship material. It is not up to you to fix her.. or make her happy.. that is up to her... You have called several times.. and left messages... its up to her now.. to call back. She knows.. you are interested... but.. don't act needy... by showing up at her work... if she has not called you back... I remember doing that years ago.. with some woman I thought wanted a relationship.... she ran for the hills...... live and learn...
Yamaha Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 If you have been friends for 3 years with this gal and nothing romantic has occurred then it most likely never will. She is uncomfortable taking it to the next level so you either accept the friendship or you will find yourself without her friendship if you pursue for more.
BlueEyedSarah Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 I've known this girl for about 3 years I would consider her a good friend, and we've been hanging out with each other a lot lately, like an entire 26 hours together and we slept only 4 of those, we spent the night in the same bed and I believe she was giving me signs to kiss her, I was like 95% sure, but I held back. The other night we hung out and I said, there is something I have been meaning to do for a long time, and I leaned in. She pulled back and I said what can I not kiss you? She said don't make it any harder and don't be disheartened, and she said she was going through drama and I asked if that mattered and she said she didn't know why it did but it did. She then said she's thought about it many times, especially the night we slept in the same bed (when I was 95% sure she wanted me to kiss her but I held back). She siad she's wanted to but shes held it back, I said I had too. She then said don't worry it'll happen. She went home that night and the next day I visited her at work, everything seemed normal, but a little weird at the same time. The next day after I visited her at work I called her and she answered and everything seemed normal on the phone too. However i've called her 3 times since, over the past 2 days, and i've left 2 messages, but she hasn't called me back. How much longer should I wait to call her if she hasn't called me and should I visit her at work today if its a regular stop for me on my way to work? She has had instances in the past where i'll call her and she won't call me back then like 2 weeks later i'll call her and she'll be fine. i'm just kind of curious if shes avoiding me or just being too busy to return my calls. Also the last time she answered I called her on my cell with a listed # and my cell is now dead so i had to call with my house number that has a restricted #, and that may be why she hasn't answered, because she doesn't answer private numbers. But that still doesn't explain why she hasn't called me back. Oh well, maybe i'm worring to much and I should just visit her today. Ok...hold the horse dude! You will end up scaring her away if you carry on calling and visiting her after work. I think you should visit her at least once a week to hang out or once every 2 weeks to hang out once in a while. Like others have said here...you have let it been known that you feel something more for her, now its up to her to sort out her issues if she wants something more with you. But don't wait around for it to happen as nothing may happen.
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