Ruby Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 My boyfriend of a year has annoyed me so much I am thinking of ending it! He knows I have no money at the moment and has offered me money on a few occasions but hasnt actually given me it - He knows how proud I am and its almost as if he wants me to beg for it (which would happen when hell freezes over) I have helped him out numerous times and without him begging! To top it off I have just rang him and he was meeting his ex's daughter (not his daughter) to give her money to go out with! I am soooooo mad at him - He is supposed to love me and he leaves me here potless and he knows it and yet he goes to give money to a girl who never calls him and doesnt care a ****e about him! He also wont let me meet his youngest son and that is making me feel like crap too as I feel like I am just pushed out when he comes down. I just want to end it but I love him so its not an easy decision to make. My head is spinning - I just tried to call him to talk to him abo9ut how I feel and i asked if he had a minute (he knows I have the hump) and he said he not at the moment! I am so mad! what do I do?
peace_pipe Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 When he gets home, give him the best BJ you ever did give. Then hit him up for a few bucks. No joking.
Author Ruby Posted May 26, 2007 Author Posted May 26, 2007 If you cant offer decent advice then please dont bother!
GregsBad Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 When he gets home, give him the best BJ you ever did give. Then hit him up for a few bucks. No joking. That would work for me. How much do you need Ruby? Peace Pipe, You've got the wisdom of a thousand years.
Hugh_950 Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 If you cant offer decent advice then please dont bother! Ruby ... I know it sounded crass but there is some wisdom in what Peace Pipe said. You're asking for advice. You have power that you haven't tapped yet. He's trying to open your eyes girl. The one with the p*ssy makes the rules. Stop WAITING for him to read your mind. Tell him what you want ... most guys really want to KNOW!!!
Art_Critic Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 He is supposed to love me and he leaves me here potless and he knows it and yet he goes to give money to a girl who never calls him and doesnt care a ****e about him! Are you trying to say that he isn't supposed to love his step daughter ? once a step parent always a step parent. After being a step parent myself.. even 6 years after the divorce I still send her money and gifts on special days like B-days and Christmas..I even have traveled 4 hours one way to fix her computer.. because I love her and she will always be my step daughter.. I think you are just mad at him.. you will calm down and things should fall back into place.. Why not have a talk with him about how much trouble you are having making your bills right now.. Letting someone that loves you in on what is going on is a good thing.. talk to him
Art_Critic Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 The one with the p*ssy makes the rules. While we all laugh and make jokes about this type of statement it has no real weight in a real relationship.. A woman doesn't make all the rules because she has a pussy.. If that really was the case then who makes the rules in relationships that they have very little sex ? or none ?
Hugh_950 Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 Are you trying to say that he isn't supposed to love his step daughter ? once a step parent always a step parent. After being a step parent myself.. even 6 years after the divorce I still send her money and gifts on special days like B-days and Christmas..I even have traveled 4 hours one way to fix her computer.. because I love her and she will always be my step daughter.. I think you are just mad at him.. you will calm down and things should fall back into place.. Why not have a talk with him about how much trouble you are having making your bills right now.. Letting someone that loves you in on what is going on is a good thing.. talk to him Art is right, Ruby! Your bf probably really cares about you. He might be a little dumb about this. Just tell him!
Hugh_950 Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 While we all laugh and make jokes about this type of statement it has no real weight in a real relationship.. A woman doesn't make all the rules because she has a pussy.. If that really was the case then who makes the rules in relationships that they have very little sex ? or none ? Oh .... OK I guess I'm a little shallow
Author Ruby Posted May 26, 2007 Author Posted May 26, 2007 I just sent him a text It says ......... If you was sitting indoors with no money I would help you without you even asking. Your loyalties obviously lie with (ex's name) and her daughter so maybe you should get back with her? I have helped you out so many time sin the past and never once made you feel like a tramp! You even knocked me for the money you owed me in the week. Thanks He owed me money in the week and only paid me back half, normally i wouldnt even care but just at this moment i am so strapped and my son is constantly asking for money for this and taht and it is making me feel worse. He is so busy giving his ex's kid money and my son has nothing here I know i sound nasty but I have helped this guy so many times!
GregsBad Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 Oh .... OK I guess I'm a little shallow I disagree Hugh. I think Art was a little slow on the uptake and missed your point. Ruby ... I think the point was that you have more influence than you know and commuincation is the key. Say Art? Are you sure that isn't Tammy Baker in your avatar?
Author Ruby Posted May 26, 2007 Author Posted May 26, 2007 I did communicate - I have told him I am broke - He has offered money and not given me it! It is like he wants me to beg! Regarding the blow job, I would probably bite the bugger off in the mood I am in now!
GregsBad Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 I just sent him a text It says ......... If you was sitting indoors with no money I would help you without you even asking. Your loyalties obviously lie with (ex's name) and her daughter so maybe you should get back with her? I have helped you out so many time sin the past and never once made you feel like a tramp! You even knocked me for the money you owed me in the week. Thanks He owed me money in the week and only paid me back half, normally i wouldnt even care but just at this moment i am so strapped and my son is constantly asking for money for this and taht and it is making me feel worse. He is so busy giving his ex's kid money and my son has nothing here I know i sound nasty but I have helped this guy so many times! Well you sent it so can't take it back. I think it's always better to just tell him your needs. Save the guilt trip and comparing how good your are to his failings for another time - maybe never. But don't link these things to your legitimate needs. He'll NEVER see you needs this way, only that you now think he's a creep. The more I think about this, the more Peace Pipe had the best idea. No joke! You could still text him again ... saying you blew up out of frustration. And say somthing sweeter - like, "Can I have the money now baby? I really need it."
Author Ruby Posted May 26, 2007 Author Posted May 26, 2007 NO WAY would I beg him for Anything! I would rather starve and die!
Star Gazer Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 Your text to him was very passive-aggressive. For the most part, I agree with A_C. You should go read Candy's threads - you sound a lot like her. We all gave her a TON of advice.
GregsBad Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 NO WAY would I beg him for Anything! I would rather starve and die! Oh stop! You're over reacting. You're just gonna' look all scrawny and ugly in the coffin
Art_Critic Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 texting someone isn't communicating.. You need to speak with him in person.. face to face.. If you need help then ask him for it.. he loves you.. part of him loving you is making sure that you are not hurt.. If he doesn't come to the table then maybe he couldn't.. and if he could've and spent the money drinking or on a game then maybe you should break up with him.. you speak of loyalties.. His step daughter is a loyalty to him.. it is his daughter.. You can't make yourself so low as to actually compare yourself to his kid.. Try not to go there...Keep it respectful
GregsBad Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 Do none of you think he is wrong here? Yes! He's wrong. But don't you want to fix this?
Art_Critic Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 Do none of you think he is wrong here? He sounds young.. so do you.. Priorities are always a tough thing for young people until we learn and make our mistakes then we rearrange them.. He may not be putting you high enough up on the scale of things.. If you don't like where he has put you then speak with him about it..if he doesn't change then dump him..
Author Ruby Posted May 26, 2007 Author Posted May 26, 2007 It isnt his kid! It is his ex's kid! She does not care a dot for him she only contacts him for money! I tried to call him and he wouldnt talk to me so I text him! I DID ask him for help and he offered me money but hasnt given it to me. I wont beg! I refuse! I am not a doormat and I wont be made to feel like a tramp! He has needed money many times and I gave it without question and without him begging Oh he even offered me $20 to do his ironing - Nice eh!
Author Ruby Posted May 26, 2007 Author Posted May 26, 2007 He sounds young.. so do you.. Priorities are always a tough thing for young people until we learn and make our mistakes then we rearrange them.. He may not be putting you high enough up on the scale of things.. If you don't like where he has put you then speak with him about it..if he doesn't change then dump him.. I wish he was young i would understand it more i am 36 and he is 38 - we both have been in LTR's and I wont be treated this way as I spent years being treted badly! I should be a priorty - He has been in my sons life for a year now and he knows if I have no money then my son suffers I used to earn loads of money and always had loads spare so I am not used to being broke - Trust me I have helped him more times than i wish to think about!
Art_Critic Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 It isnt his kid! It is his ex's kid! I have consitantly used the word STEP Daughter.. It is his kid... his step kid.. A step child is no different than a biological child to the step parent.. A step parents feelings for that child don't go away when two people divorce.. There isn't a thing I wouldn't do for my Step Daughter and I haven't been married to her Mom in over 6 years..
Star Gazer Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 Do none of you think he is wrong here? I think you're overreacting.
GregsBad Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 It isnt his kid! It is his ex's kid! She does not care a dot for him she only contacts him for money! I tried to call him and he wouldnt talk to me so I text him! I DID ask him for help and he offered me money but hasnt given it to me. I wont beg! I refuse! I am not a doormat and I wont be made to feel like a tramp! He has needed money many times and I gave it without question and without him begging Oh he even offered me $20 to do his ironing - Nice eh! You're explaining more now. Listen to Art. Talk to your b/f about all your feelings ... then decide to dump him or keep him. Or dump him now
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