kiki87 Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 Hi there, Well I am about to embark on a long-distance relationship with my boyfriend whom I love dearly:love:. He has recently graduated college and is a new officer in the Army and is leaving next week for training. I live in good olé Montana, and I will be a junior in college this fall. He is going be in Oklahoma for six months and hopefully going to be back once in July and then for Thanksgiving and/or Christmas. Then in the beginning of next year he leaves for a year long tour in Korea. He wants to fly me to Korea for my spring break (I am TOTALLY down for that!) And then I might take a few weeks to see him in the summer... After that we haven't planned out yet but there is a chance he might get stationed somewhere closer like WA. I have never been in a serious relationship nor have I been in a long-distance relationship but I am really willing to try. If anyone has any pointers for me to help make the difficult time apart a little easier I would love to hear any input. Thanks!!
catrocks Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 You seem to have gotten off to a good start with it because you seem so positive and willing, which is great! You know it's not going to be easy and yet you want it to work and you know it's not going to be like this forever. Keep that positive attitude, it will help you out immensly. It may be a bit difficult when he's in Korea to communicate every day, but try to communicate as much as you can, so that you know whats going on in the other's life. You can share things the same as you would in a non LDR, but you will have to do it in an email or short phone call. As long as you keep communicating, and tell him if you're feeling down or having doubts, and encourage him to do the same, you'll be fine. I think you should think of this as the start of an adventure - you seem to be doing so already. I'd never really been out of Europe before my LDR (except to Canada, South Africa and Egypt/Tunisia) but my LDR (when he was in the af - he's not anymore) took me to Mississippi, Vegas, the Grand Canyon, Utah, the Rocky Mountains.... places I always wanted to go but might not have gotten the opportunity without my man. It's been such an adventure for me and I feel that both our relationship and me as a person have grown over the 2.5 years. The distance is horrible at times but as long as you remember how much you want it to work and love him, you'll be fine. Congratulations on the beginning of your adventure! You'll love it! xx
Author kiki87 Posted May 26, 2007 Author Posted May 26, 2007 Thank you so much... just hearing encouraging words makes it much easier to go into this with a positive attitude! I REALLY appreciate it!
Lizzie60 Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 A tape or CD with 'both your' love songs that will remind him of you. Communicate by emails as much as possible..and don't forget the love letters (the real letters)... send him some pictures of you on a regular basis... so he doesn't forget your smile. Make a tape of your voice telling him a nice story... a 'live' love letter in other words. Give him a piece of clothes with 'your' smell that he can take with him. Send him nice 'little treats' from time to time. (candies, chocolate, gummies LOL...etc., find out what he likes). Phone calls.... phone sex...
blondegirl30 Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 Definitely phone calls!! With any long distance relationship all you really have is communication over phone, emailing, etc. In my relationship we talk every night on the computer and phone, although I'm the one that loves talking over the phone mostly it seems. He'd probably just be ok talking every time on yahoo. Also we text each other a few times a day. Thank god for modern technology!! But it does get frustrating and I have times where I really get on his nerves about when we'll be together because I'm just a very impatient person. Talk as much as you can via phone/internet! Phone sex for sure!! My BF won't really do that with me though. He's a rare breed:o
taiko Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 Get a phone plan with unlimited messaging. Better yet with internet capability and yahoo, MSN etc instant messaging. Then you can text or email at anytime. You can also email snap shots on the fly. Especially when he gets to Korea the time difference and soldiers duty schedules will call for unscheduled on the fly comunication when you are away from your computers. Don't worry about his end most of the world has better mobile phone networks and capabilities then the US. Assuming you are already sexually invovled let him take some sexy pictures of you. We don't need him worrying about your photographer. If you are connected enough for that $1000 plane ticket to Korea ask yourself do you trust him enough to have his own video of the two of you together. To do that requires a leap of faith that he won't out you showing off the video to others. If you're already doing it regular phone and cyber sex is almost mandatory. If you don't know how. You can get Penthouse letters if they still publish that or perhaps check out the letters at hoochymail.com for pointers on describing sex. The other part is describing your orgasims. Typing ohhhh, ahhhh isn't that hard.
sb129 Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 I am in a LDR, and I have never had phone sex! We do see eachother most weekends tho. All the other suggestions on here are great, I am offering somethings a little different- Please don't give up your life to sit by the phone or the computer. As harsh as that may sound, it will make the time you spend apart feel like an eternity. You have to maintain your own life and your own interests and friends. Good luck!
taiko Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 I am in a LDR, and I have never had phone sex! We do see eachother most weekends tho. I'm on the other side we see each other for a few weeks about twice a year. Life during wartime is hard, but much easier then past generations had it. On PBS they were reading some WWII love/sex letters from the home front to troops while celebrating memorial day. It is an old tradition. All the other suggestions on here are great, I am offering somethings a little different- Please don't give up your life to sit by the phone or the computer. As harsh as that may sound, it will make the time you spend apart feel like an eternity. You have to maintain your own life and your own interests and friends. Good luck! That's why you get the best mobile phone possible. You aren't just sitting by the phone you are living and if a text or phone call comes in or an interesting picture happens upon you, you don't have to make a special trip to your home or internet cafe to contact. It becomes more like normal life.
DOA Posted June 11, 2007 Posted June 11, 2007 I am in a LDR, and I have never had phone sex! We do see eachother most weekends tho. All the other suggestions on here are great, I am offering somethings a little different- Please don't give up your life to sit by the phone or the computer. As harsh as that may sound, it will make the time you spend apart feel like an eternity. You have to maintain your own life and your own interests and friends. Good luck! Can't agree with this more. Your sweetie ain't gonna be on the comp or phone 24/7, so neither should you! Maximise your life AND your relationship time!
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