Lonestar23 Posted May 25, 2007 Posted May 25, 2007 This is sort of long, please try to bear with me. If you read any of my other posts you understand how we got into a relationship, if not I'll give you a brief summary. Very short - leaving out a lot of important details but this is the basics. (yes, I know drama # 1) She was one of my close friends g/f -- he did her and me dirty and we got close and end up dating. He lied about everything about himself, his family, made up lies about me etc. Continued to do so after they broke up. We started seeing each other about a week or 2 after they broke up. (Drama # 2) Then her ex-boyfriend which is not a cool dude either comes in the picture because her and my ex-best friend broke up(he was around as her friend while my ex-best friend and her was dating). She thought all along he was waiting for her and not seeing any1. But she later found out thats not true. He was a jerk during the relationship with her also. Anyways during this time with all the lies her ex(s) made her go thru. She is having trust issues with her friends and and esp. me because of her past. I did everything I promise her I would do. And tried my very best to be the best for her. She knows that but with her past being a issue its a problem. We would have arguments about her not being ready for a relationship or able to fully trust me. But she is very happy to be with me because I'm all that she wants in a relationship but just not the right time. After numerous talks and arguments(once per week), finally we decided to let her have her time to be by herself and just let her breath. (we been together for 2 months but known each other as close friends for 1yr) She said she don't know how long its going to take. And that she don't want to see/date other ppl. But she don't want to hold me back by me waiting for her. I have her house keys, I asked her if she wants me to give them back to her. She said no, not right now because giving it back to her means that she permanently wants to end this. Which she don't want and that if one day she gets better and I still feel the same way then maybe... maybe we can try this. I tried to walk away and be understanding but I came back and we had a huge fight. So we talked for a little bit yesterday online and again I asked her if she wants her keys back. She said no, not right now and said the above paragraphs words again. She said that if during this time I find someone else who can give me their 100% and treats me right, I should go for her because I deserve it. Or if my ex came back in my life she won't stop me.(this will never happen) She just don't want me to sit and wait for her because she don't know how long this is going to take, days, months, years? I told her I still cared very much for her and that this is very hard for me to go thru. But I do understand what she is doing is trying not to hurt me in the long run. And that she needs to get through this herself. The question is what should i do?? I know that I can't be with her until she figures herself out. And that can be any amt. of time and maybe by that time she might not feel the same about me anymore.
Bree Posted May 25, 2007 Posted May 25, 2007 You need to give her the keys back and get closure. While you hold those keys she is still holding you back from moving on.
Author Lonestar23 Posted May 25, 2007 Author Posted May 25, 2007 Thanks for the fast response Bree. But should I really be moving on? Or should I just put this on hold really? I guess what I'm asking is what are the chances that we will be back together? I mean besides the fact that she is not ready emotionally for a relationship so fast, she is extremely happy with me and I so with her. Is because maybe she jumped from 1 relationship to another then to me, maybe you think she just need some lone time? I mean I don't want to date anyone else after all that I put into this relationship. And the way she makes me feel is just so great. No other girl I dated made me feel this happy. But then no other girl I've dated besides my long term ex made me few this way either. ,=T
Author Lonestar23 Posted May 25, 2007 Author Posted May 25, 2007 I'm 22 going to 23 at the end of the yr and she just turned 20. My previous relationship was 5yrs long...and dated a few girls in between that didn't last more then a week or less total.
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