Author lawyer83 Posted May 27, 2007 Author Posted May 27, 2007 We just talked. I told him that I think he is kind of controlling, that I am still angry about the abortion, and that I didn't know if this relationship was healthy for either one of us. I also mentioned the fact that we have trouble communicating, and I asked him if he would see a therapist(with me, or on his own). I said, "I think you should come with me because the problems I'm having aren't just my problems; they are our problems because we are in a relationship together." I also suggested that therapy could be beneficial for both of us, even if we don't end up together. I mentioned some of the feelings I'd been telling you all about in the previous post about having the abortion to make him happy, and trying to figure out what kind of person that makes me and what kind of person I want to be. He said I should figure that out myself. He wouldn't look me in the eye. I had to ask him to look me in the eye. He responded that therapy couldn't help solve anything because if we have problems then we have to work them out on our own. He said that therapy isn't a magic problem solver (as if I wasn't already aware of this). And in his words, "I don't need to go to therapy for future relationships either because if this relationship doesn't work out I think that I am going to be single for a long time." I have no idea what happens next, but I am so glad that I was able to get all of this off of my chest. We both know this relationship is dead, but I still wanted to give him one last chance. I've definitely been a fool for love. I 'd hoped that he would come around...maybe he'd try to improve things; but he doesn't want to try. No, he'd rather pretend that there are no problems between us than work on the ones we have. Do any of you think that my expectations were too high? Was my offer of a chance to work things out a waste of time even if I still love him? Do I really have to give back the ring? It's 2.5 cts.
Author lawyer83 Posted May 27, 2007 Author Posted May 27, 2007 Update: He just offered to see the therapist with me.
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