the_otherhalf Posted May 25, 2007 Posted May 25, 2007 The background: We dated for four years, and he broke up with me about 2.5 months ago. For the last two months, we talked off and on (though mostly off). For the last three weeks, I started NC to see if he would ever say anything to me again. During this NC period, he started dating someone else who lives back in our college town three hours away, but the two of us are home in the same town for the summer. Sunday, he sent me an e-mail worried that he "has created a serious chasm in our relationship, perhaps even ruined it, something he would never be able to forgive himself for." He also wants to see me so that we can talk about the last few weeks. In the e-mail, he keeps stressing how much he wants my friendship, something that we've never had. We never started out as friends--we met and started dating soon after. So far, I have not responded to his e-mail. My nagging questions: 1. I really would have preferred a phone call or something in person, something more personal and not electronic. Is it bad to want and wait for him to do that? Will he ever do it? 2. About a month after we broke up, he told me that I brought him to the lowest point in his entire life, which is why he broke up with me (there was no cheating going on, just a lot of criticism and bickering from my side). Why would he want to be friends with someone or have someone in his life who brought him to this low point? 3. Should I respond to the e-mail and eventually see him like he asked? However, I almost feel like a response would be counterproductive. 4. Is his only motive friendship? It just seems a bit too convenient that his new girlfriend is three hours away, so now he can find the time to contact me. Thanks for any help!
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