elibthmichel Posted May 25, 2007 Posted May 25, 2007 My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost one year now and we are both about to graduate from Highschool. We're going on to different colleges Me to the University of Mary Washington and him To William and Mary. First off this summer I am going to Spain with him for a fun-graduation present-trip and we'll be staying with his family. For the last couple of months I have been falling out of love with him. I can't say the exact cause but I see him more as a friend now than the boyfriend I loved. The only reason I am still with him is that it would be awkward to tell our parents that we broke up and we no longer wanted to go to europe..But just in the last couple of weeks I have been really falling hard for his best friend..a bad place to be I know. But..I told him that I liked him, and he said he liked me too..I told my boyfriend I wanted to go on a "break" to get some space, but I really wanted to break it off. I only have to wait it out another month or so before we go to spain, but me and his best friend have been hanging out a lot lately- He feels bad about it just like i do..does anyone have any advice for me? I'm so confused!
norajane Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 You know what to do - you're just afraid to do it. Be honest and break up with him. Do not go to Spain - you'll end up feeling terrible with him and his family there because you know you don't love him anymore. And he'll pick up on that and you'll both be miserable. Think how much worse it would be to break up while you're IN Spain! And definitely stop seeing his best friend until you break up with your bf! That's just going to hurt your bf even more if he finds out what's going on behind his back. Do the right thing, and do it soon.
Lady Aurora Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 Sounds to me like you are growing up/maturing. You are at a point of change in your life. What you are feeling is natural. Definitely, stop the thing with the best friend now before anyone gets hurt. If this guy has any character, he will understand you not wanting to cheat on his best friend. If he doesn't understand, well than he is not the kind you want to be with anyway. I disagree that you need to call off your trip. It may be too late for that anyway. I think if you go, you and your boyfriend might have some fun again. If nothing else, it will be an experience you are not likely to get again. But, do be mindful of his feelings, especially when you stay with his family. Don't worry so much about falling out of love with him. Soon you will be off to college, and it won't really matter. Go on your trip with him and remember all the things that made you like him in the first place. IOW, go and have fun. Aura
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