ladyjane Posted May 25, 2007 Posted May 25, 2007 Ive posted on here before, but my posts were long winded and no one responded..I just want to get straight to the issue.....I have an x boyfriend, we dated six months and dint get along for the most part...I tried to live up to his standards of the relationship and he didnt feel appreciated...We broke up a few weeks ago on the decision to be just friends first and possibly get along and have a good enough time to work things out... (The relationship was too intense from the beginning)..The frienship break up thing was my idea... He almost immediately started dating someone else..Who I then became jealous, and supposedly pushed him further and further away because of it, and now he is dating her exclusively and seriously... He has also recently started throwing in my face how our relationship was not even a real relationship, that I didnt know how to make him happy..That he is so unbelievably happy with this new Girl...And here I am wallowing in sorrow and regret..and he keeps saying I should have tried when I had the chance... The queston is...This girl is going away in a month...While she is here, he is planning on spendig that time getting to know her and happily and exclusively with her...He says he misses me and wants to be my friend, but I made him miserable..He also says there might be a possibility in the future..Im guessing after she leaves, for us to try the friendship thing again... I know I have little control over him being "unbelievably and incredibly happy" with someone else for a month..I know if I even tried being back with him, he would compare me to her....But I also know, he wishes the ease and happiness he has with her, was what he had with me...I think his heart and his attraction is bigger for me..But I think he connects and is very happy with this other woman after a miserable relationship...Ive been trying to come to terms with it and dont know if I should let time do its thing and see how we both feel in a month.. Or shut out the idea of possibilities with him, since he chose someone else over me, and I would be his second choice..its difficult to know since she is moving away....I do wish I could give it one more try....I dont feel like I gave it my all, and that's why he is so bitter....I hope by the end of next month I dont want to be with him..But if I do...Im not sure if I could trust my heart with someone who could say how much happier they are without me...And yet, say they miss me and care about me and might want to try again in the future? I miss him so much right now...But I feel like in a month, I will just be getting over the worst of the pain....I dont know...Any advice....Do second tries ever work? And would I be selling myself short?
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