Spidergal Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 I am a college gal. One of the problems I have noticed with guys is that when a girl tries to volunteer for a friendship with them, they tend to think she is romantically interested in them. I have seen this with so many guys, and so many girls complain about this. This goes to guys: what suggestions would you give to girls as far as approaching guys is concerned? What sort of girl behaviors and antics put you off? Thanks!
GiveAndTake Posted May 25, 2007 Posted May 25, 2007 From what I've seen and heard from men is, men only approach women with which they are romantically attracted. It's possible that they could have a friendship with a girl they are not attracted to but it would have developed while being in each other's company coincidentally. They won't initiate it if the attraction isn't there. For women, that's not true at all. This is why men think if we as girls, have a male friend, that male friend wants to get into our pants. For the most part, they may be right. It's because they know how men think. By the way, that's not our fault guys. Just because you think that, doesn't mean we do.
Yamaha Posted May 25, 2007 Posted May 25, 2007 My suggestion is to keep it casual. Do not spend loads of one-on-one time with a male friend. When you get close and the guy likes you he is very apt to become emotionally attached to his friend and see you in a romantic way. Let him know up front that you are just looking for a friendship and there is no possibility of romance. This will let him know where you stand and if he wants a just friendship with you. Keep the contact to no more than once a week or once every other week. If you have a bf make sure you talk about him so the friend knows you are in a relationship. The best advice is to be upfront and tell him that it's just a friendship from the start. If it does happen don't just cut him off with out a word but try to understand his feelings and give him time to get over his crush. After all, you must have liked him as a person to be his friend.
GiveAndTake Posted May 25, 2007 Posted May 25, 2007 So, what you're saying Yamaha is... All men should be treated as though they are in nursery school for relationships?
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