EYECANDY000 Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 Ha, im glad you brought that up, because I am a very successful woman 25 years of age who has a crush on a guy, 19 years of age. He looks extremely young. Well, he looks like his age. Finally I ask him would he like to come back to my house, just to hang out for a bit.We have been joking around about hanging out, but thats all i took it as, jokes. Because we cant go to a lounge or bar. Basiclly nothin happened except for a little smooching. He ended up spending the night , and he was really cool and a perfect gentleman. Hes like very affectionate, and attentive. which is what i love from a guy. But i know i can never be serious with him. We work together, but in different departments. I was hoping that it wouldnt be wierd or anything, because im not seeking anything serious. Ha, the funny thing is, the entire i was like "what am i doin" What do you guys think? He said he doesnt mind being with a older woman, but im with a younger guy.. totally different. Oh wait ! who the hell does he think he is calling me old.
Lizzie60 Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 25 - 19 only 6 years... that's nothing. My lover this afternoon... was 38 which is a 17 years difference... Later tonite I'm seeing one who is 41.. a 14 years difference... So, for me, unless there is at least 10 years difference I consider that the same age. My youngest is 23, a 31 year difference...that is my record... LOL
Can'tGiveUp Posted May 25, 2007 Posted May 25, 2007 He didn't call you old...just older - which you are. I feel like there are a few issues here besides the age difference. The first would be whether you really don't want a relationship. If that is the case, then the age difference shouldn't really matter. More importantly is whether you really want to get involved with someone you work with. Those can always be difficult situations - even if you just want sex with no commitment. Not always a good idea. As for the age difference, I think where you are in life is more important that the actual years. If you are both single, no kids and focused on careers then you are probably in the same place. However, I also believe that there is a bigger gap in maturity between 19 and 25 than there would be between 29 and 35. But that is a generalization and only you can determine if you feel he is mature enough. I am currently dating a 27 yr old and I am almost 40. My concerns are more with where we are in our lives - I have had kids and have no intentions of having more - he doesn't have any. I am settled in my career, own my own home and am busy raising my kids. He is living a "single life". So we have issues other than age.
MsPiggy Posted May 25, 2007 Posted May 25, 2007 Eyecandy, I am 25yrs old with a great career and I am with a 17yr old!!!!! SEVENTEEN!!! He goes to the same highschool i graduated from 8 years ago, lol. We started off as nothing but friends and as I got to know him I realized what a FANTASTIC person he was. I was dating someone that was 35yrs old at the time which was a total self-centered jerk. The 35 yr old had no job, no education and a teenage kid. What i'm saying is I realized this 35yr old actually has LESS to offer me this 17yr old. The 17 yr old is wayyy more mature, cosiderate, understanding, helpful i can go on and on. Anyway, i was EXTREMELY hesistant to persue this as the age thing was HUGE to me and i had just gotten out of a rotten year relationship and prior to that an eleven year relationship. I must say, i'm soooo glad i have it a shot. it's still a fairly fresh relationship (about 5months), but i'm the HAPPIEST i've ever been and now i want EVERYBODY to know - YES, HE'S 17 and i'm 25 AND WHATT?? i'm glad i didn't worry about what other people might say or think of me and i'm just living my life and i'm the happiest i've ever been, can't say that about any other relationshp i've been in. only iffy thing is the working together thing although it's in different dept's.. LIZZIE60 - I LOVE YOUR STYLE lol
MsPiggy Posted May 25, 2007 Posted May 25, 2007 Eyecandy, I am 25yrs old with a great career and I am with a 17yr old!!!!! SEVENTEEN!!! He goes to the same highschool i graduated from 8 years ago, lol. We started off as nothing but friends and as I got to know him I realized what a FANTASTIC person he was. I was dating someone that was 35yrs old at the time which was a total self-centered lying jerk. The 35 yr old had no job, no education and a teenage kid. What i'm saying is I realized this 35yr old actually has LESS to offer me this 17yr old. The 17 yr old is wayyy more mature, cosiderate, understanding, helpful i can go on and on. Anyway, i was EXTREMELY hesistant to persue this as the age thing was HUGE to me and i had just gotten out of a rotten year relationship (w/35yr old) and prior to that an eleven year relationship. I must say i'm sooo over older guys. a lot of them are soo tainted, very insecure, controlling, think they're soo much smarter. my younger guy is soo optimistic about love, lots of energy and knows he doesnt know everything and is willing to listen. other than the age thing i have no complaints about my "pumpkin"(thats what i call him, my friend calls me a pediphile for it - but screw her lol) I must say, i'm soooo glad i gave it a shot. it's still a fairly fresh relationship (about 5months), but i'm the HAPPIEST i've ever been and now i want EVERYBODY to know - YES, HE'S 17 and i'm 25 - WHATS THE PROBLEM?? i'm glad i stopped worrying about what other people might say or think of me and i'm just living my life and i'm the happiest i've ever been, can't say that about any other relationshp i've been in. only iffy thing in my opinion is the working together thing although it's in different dept's.. LIZZIE60 - I LOVE YOUR STYLE lol
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