Johhnyboy1988 Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 I have a girlfriend who is 19 years old, and we go to college together, and love eacother very much. Her family is very welcoming of me, and enjoys my company, and trusts me, etc. But when we come back to NYC (where we both live) her father won't let her come visit me for a night. She tries to assert her authority as an adult who can make her own decisions about what she wants to do, but everytime she argues with him about it, he blows up in an angry fury and makes her cry. There is almost no pont in even arguing anymore, because the man has such a horrible temper, and is completely impossible to reason with. The biggest problem is not that we can't visit eachother, but I am worried that we are in a sort of power struggle with her father, who still treats her like she is in high school. What makes this even harder is that I have very chill parents who are fine with whatever I want to do as long as I let them know that I am safe, so her situation is just completly nonsensical and foreign to me. When is he going to let her free? When she's 30? When she's 50? I want to tell him the error of his ways, but still try to maintain a respectful tone, not to mention, I don't want to jeopardize his trust in me. Her mother is a little bit more lenient, but will always side with her husband. I know they are a close knit family, but is there any room for some freedom? How do I breeh the subject with her father?
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