Guest Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 do you think jerking off to porn on the computer is considered cheating? something lacking in the relationship? or, can it be somewhat a normal thing to do even in a healthy relationship?
Misfit4life Posted July 6, 2007 Posted July 6, 2007 bump... I'd like to know some opinions on this too...
Enema Posted July 6, 2007 Posted July 6, 2007 This question has been done a million times. Search the forums. Summary of answers: You have to make up your own mind, some think it is, some think it isn't.
FireandIce Posted July 6, 2007 Posted July 6, 2007 I don't think it is as long as it isn't effecting what goes on between the two of you in the bedroom. If your spouse is doing that instead of doing you, well then I think you have a problem. LOL
lonelybird Posted July 6, 2007 Posted July 6, 2007 Porn will sow despise or disrespect in a relationship. You can become to be addictive to it, and become variety oriented (many women), rather depth oriented (deep rooted love).
LucreziaBorgia Posted July 6, 2007 Posted July 6, 2007 1. do you think jerking off to porn on the computer is considered cheating? 2. something lacking in the relationship? 3. or, can it be somewhat a normal thing to do even in a healthy relationship? 1. No. Masturbation, and the catalyst for it are personal and private - none of anyone's business except the person doing it. 2. No. Masturbation is not the same as sex with a partner, and says nothing about a person's sex life with someone else. 3. Yes. I'll say it again. Masturbation is not the same as having sex with a partner. Different motivation and different thought process entirely. HOWEVER... If masturbation replaces sex with a partner, and a person cannot get 'turned on' by anything EXCEPT porn and can't respond sexually to anything except the hand then there is a problem.
Lynna Posted July 6, 2007 Posted July 6, 2007 No, as long as it does not replace the real relationship. Fantasys can help keep things spicy, you might get some fun ideas to try out! But it should not be done to excess and it should not of an offensive nature (ie child pornography, or worse). If one partner enjoys some porn occasionally but the other partner has a problem with it, then THAT disagreement is an issue. Then you must communicate with each other and talk about the issue. Really, what matters is what your SO thinks.
Recommended Posts