jlea Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 This is my story....I met this guy a month ago on a cruise and spent the entire cruise hanging out with him. We decided that we would date even though we live 8hrs away from each other. The next weekend I flew up to see him and then last weekend he came to see me. He told me last Friday night he was falling in love with me so I thought everthing was great til this week. I have barely talked to him, he's went from emailing me 5 to 6 times a day to maybe once or twice now. When we talk on the phone I feel like I no longer know him, there's this distance between us now and I don't understand. He is supposed to come visit this weekend but I don't know how to act now. Does anyone have any advice?
Freedom Now Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 I wish I did. I am in the same boat.... He became less attentive, I called him out on it....and he disappeared. Today, he said we will talk when he gets back from vacation... I have no answers....
gonetildecember Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 I sort of went through that panic faze with a man i met a few months ago. The first few weeks that we were apart we talked everyday, multiple times a day.. he was extremely attentive.. then all of a sudden it was like once a day.. sometimes we'd go a day or two without talking and i flipped out.. i thought it was over or the newness had worn off, or he'd met someone else.. but what it turned out to be that he was just getting comfortable with me and it wasnt necessary to talk 5 to 6 times a day anymore.. and even tho it went down a little.. it picked up again the next week and things were great after that... dont panic yet.. at least he's contacting u twice or so a day... don't think anything until he gives u a reason to.. see how things go this weekend.. good luck!
LoveLace Posted May 25, 2007 Posted May 25, 2007 Maybe it worries him to be in love with someone who lives so far away, because long distance relationships can be more complicated in maintaining therefore it raises a chance of not working out. Maybe he's just scared but doesn't want you to know that he is. See how it goes this weekend and if you still feel distant from him, just ask him if there's something on his mind. good luck
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