update on "don't know how to respose"

[upto_here]

Its been a few day that i did not post anything...if you might know my situation before that i fell pregnant with my EXMM and don't know how to deal with the situations..whether to get rid of the baby or tell my husband the whole truth <like some of you has suggest i should tell my H everythink> ..but after thinking through i made my mind up that i can not keep the baby no matter how much i love my MM but he did not feel much the same as mine ..he said he cared about me but its just not enough

all of the mess i will swallow it by myself no matter how hurt i might feel and its not fair on my H either ...last week i have been to the consultation before the abortion take place which is next week..its kind of weird and mix feeling...and emotional as i loves my kids to bit and i felt attached to the grow inside me day by day..MM came with me by surprise but im not let him in with me after that he hold my hand and kiss me ..but whats wrong with me ?part of me don't want him to be there but the other part i just wanted him to be there until the end...!!! as you might know we work together and see each other everyday but the kind of method we contact is by messaging most of it its about the emotional attach by the pregnancy...he told me not to think about it much and try to move on...i have tried but i felt really low about the whole mess that we have to destroy one precious life...and next week he wanted to be with me at the abortion centre ..should i let him come with me or not.. ? will i be able to let him go after the abortion? i am scared!!!

 

ps: with my H ..i have try to work it out on my M too but its so hard ..i don't love him anymore..realise it long time ago but deny it but now i stay for the kids..and i felt really hard i can not intimated with him whatsoever.....:lmao:and i do feel the pain that he carry

[whichwayisup]

You can't honestly work on your marriage AND have the MM in your life too. And, ofcourse it's hard, nothing is easy when fixing a marriage! Try some marriage counselling and give your H a chance. Give yourself a chance, who knows maybe things will get better.

 

Either way you need some individual counselling to help you cope through this. I wouldn't rely on your MM for anything, especially since you want to let him go.........

[Onelife]

Since all this has caused you and all parties involved a tremendous pain, after the abortion - it's time to stop. I know it will be SO hard but it's what YOU need to do. Otherwise all the pain that you all are going through now would just be a waste. Let this pain be a hard lesson learned. My heart goes to you. I hope things will be as good as it can be for you next week.

[upto_here]

Since all this has caused you and all parties involved a tremendous pain, after the abortion - it's time to stop. I know it will be SO hard but it's what YOU need to do. Otherwise all the pain that you all are going through now would just be a waste. Let this pain be a hard lesson learned. My heart goes to you. I hope things will be as good as it can be for you next week.

 

:(yes its kind of very hard for all of us all the pain ...its unbearable...today my exMM wanted to meet up and talk about things ,,its very emotion for both me and him as our feeling is still there and very strong but most of all we can not be together in so many way..and its hurt more and more....i know i had to be strong and move on with my life..as the day getting nearer i felt really emotion...we talk about things fate ,destiny,allsort that i can get out from a man ..and i asked him ..does he love me and he say yes ,,,,it should have make me feel better but its kind of mix feeling...i know i have to let him go but whta we gone through im scared it will make us stronger....this kind of relationship its very hard..to let go and move on

[Seen_It_All]

...and next week he wanted to be with me at the abortion centre ....

I would imagine that's sheer self preservation on his part (otherwise known as a deep desire to save his sorry a*ss by making sure you take care of business and don't back out).