DanielMadr Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 I met a charming, funny, attractive girl through an internet dating site a couple months back. We have had four dates since our initial meeting, all of which I thought went really well, nice flowing conversations, common interests. During one date we must have talked for over five hours over a bottle of wine. I am an attractive guy and am used to having a girl all over me by the second date, but with this one it's been nothing more than hand-holding and deep good-night kisses for not two but four. This girl has struck me as a bit more traditional than the types I usually date, and has definitely made it quite clear that she is looking for THE relationship (has made allusions to marriage and family). Are there straight women out there who are actually able to control there urges in an attempt to impress a man as a "lady" if she is serious about him? I call her quite frequently, has kept in contact as she has been out of town for two weeks, and has asked her out for this weekend for a whole day of activities.... I put some blurb in my online profile about wanting to take things "slow" but to me that means relationship-wise, not sexually. I am definitely past screwing around and I too am looking for the elusive SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP, BUT I am a very physical person with quite a sex drive. And I need to feel wanted and attractive. It's leading me to wonder if she is just holding back, or is he is lacking estrogene or has "issues" which may necessitate some medical treatment..... Women, help me out here? If you met a man you were really serious about, would you restrict things to kissing for four dates in an attempt to impress him? Help, please!
progressioncity Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 If she's in it for a long haul type thing then I wouldn't take her reticence as lack of interest. Four dates may sound like a lot but maybe she just needs some time to get to that point. I hate to generalize but women can open up to that more slowly than men. Sounds like you two have potential and wanting to feel attractive and desired is normal... who doesn't want that... some people do have a 'set' number of dates before they have sex. Give it some time, maybe talk to her about it w/o pressuring her.
StartingOver07 Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 Never mind http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t120205/
Author DanielMadr Posted May 24, 2007 Author Posted May 24, 2007 Never mind http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t120205/ Hey. Cant you keep it yourself? I just wanted to compare reactions.
StartingOver07 Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 Hey. Cant you keep it yourself? I just wanted to compare reactions. Oh, sorry! I had actually typed you a real response and then saw the other.
Author DanielMadr Posted May 24, 2007 Author Posted May 24, 2007 Oh, sorry! I had actually typed you a real response and then saw the other. never mind:)
amaysngrace Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 I think that maybe if you put "wants to take it slow" then maybe she's afraid to show you her wild side just yet because maybe that's what slow means to her?? Do you see yourself having a life with her? Maybe she wants to know she sees herself as having a life with you before you guys become serious? I don't know, Daniel. I've never wanted a relationship in my life before. They just sort of happen.
jcster Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 Have you tried to take it past kissing? By 4 dates you are certainly entitled to try. If you are waiting for a signal from her, you may never get it - so go for second!
jcster Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 WAIT A MINUTE! This is the EXACT SAME POST as this one! http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t120205/ You even replied to it.... Shomthing ish fishy.
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