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Little background; my guy works during the day (7-4 roughly) at one job then Thurs, Fri and Sat nights at another job.

 

So he called he tonight and said sorry for not calling until now (hadn't called in 2 days or responded to my txt) and was telling me about some more work he got and how busy he has been.

 

He has been working on a friend's car (for money) and got some work painting and working on the house next door to him.

 

I want to be supportive because I know he needs the money and likes to be busy. But can't help thinking that the busier he is the less time he will have for me.

 

Is it wrong of me to not be supportive in my head and be thinking of myself? (kinda - thinking of us spending time)

 

Any advise?

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How often does he usually call you?

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Before he was working so much almost every day, now every other maybe every 2. Something like that.

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Then I see why you're sad he's working more now. Definitely. Just try not to give him a hard time about it though if you can.

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I don't and I was supportive on the phone saying that's great for him and asking for details on the kind of work on so on.

 

I just worry he will have less time to see me. As much as I love when he calls I am more of a face to face person than a phone person. (But of course you need it between dates to keep in touch with each other's lives and keep learning)

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I just worry he will have less time to see me.

 

Maybe you can tell him that? Or is it too soon in the relationship?

 

If he wants to see you he will find the time. If he's still calling and he's been real busy then that's a good sign.

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Maybe you can tell him that? Or is it too soon in the relationship?

 

If he wants to see you he will find the time. If he's still calling and he's been real busy then that's a good sign.

 

Yes that's a good sign. I will wait and see what the true effect is of the added work on our relationship and play it by ear on bringing it up. Not sure if it's too soon. We have been dating for about 5 months, I haven't had the boyfriend/girlfriend conversation yet. Have wanted to lately but have had such a good time together I haven't wanted to ruin it by bringing it up so chickened out. Even though I am pretty sure I know the answer already. (I think he already feels we are, but I don't want to assume)

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