ocset Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 I broke up with my girlfriend around 19months ago; she was extremely possessive and was becoming worse as time went on, constantly accusing me of having affairs. I wasnt able to have any time away from her, not even whilst in work. She would phone and text demanding to speak with me. In the end she was becoming very agressive, for example -she rammed my car with hers (whilst I was driving). Anyway, that was the reason behind the breakup, after the break up the abusive by her to my family, collegues and myself escalated and she effectively stalked me until January this year (so for over a year) until I'd had enough and contacted the police. She was cautioned and the letters/phone calls stopped. (I'd recieved several 100 of each) To the best of my knowledge she had moved from the area, I now hear from a few people that she is trying to move back into 'my' area saying that she wants to be closer to her Partner/fiance (and she is saying that that person is me). I have never been her fiance in the first place. The police said that she didnt accept that I had broken up with her as I had not told her to her face. Well I had, many times both to her face and in writing and after not contacting her for over a hear you think she would realise that I dont want contact with her. I'm very worried by this situation, I belived that she was suppose to be getting some help (that what the police said). I'm frightened by what she may do. And I dont know what I can do, as she hasnt really 'done anything' since the police caution, as far as I'm aware except claim to be engaged to me. I havent got the money for private legal action, I'm considering moving, but that still leaves my family and friends open to her abuse and she still knows where I work. I dont think that there is anything the police will do. Its killing me with the worry, I cant sleep - hence typing this at 2am when I;ve got work at 7am. I can't move on and date someone else as its possibly not safe - she said she'd kill anyone I dated. My friends dont like m to call round in case she follows me - she knows where some of my friends live, but not all. I'm at my wits end. Does anyone have any insight into this sort of thing and where I can go from here?
GiveAndTake Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 I'd had enough and contacted the police. She was cautioned and the letters/phone calls stopped. When you say cautioned, does that include an order of protection? If not, you need to skip the caution and get one. I had an order of protection on someone once and it clearly stated, no contact, no phone calls and no third party contact. That meant, no phone calls or inquiries about me to people I know. You get to specify how you want the stalker to behave relating to your life. Then, if she violates the order of protection, she gets arrested. End of story.
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