masaki1085 Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 The girl--27 The guy--24 Without knowing any other details or factors, what is your initial gut reaction to the age difference in this dating scenario? (i.e., is it weird, unusual, workable, perfectly fine, etc.) Please elaborate on why you feel as you do. Thanks!
Lizzie60 Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 The girl--27 The guy--24 Without knowing any other details or factors, what is your initial gut reaction to the age difference in this scenario? (i.e., is it weird, unusual, workable, perfectly fine, etc.) Please elaborate on why you feel as you do. Thanks! 3 yrs difference... come on ... this is IMO same age. Older woman younger guy would be at least 10 yrs difference... other than that it's perfectly fine...
Star Gazer Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 Gut reaction: no problem here. However, I need to know other factors. For example, when I was 27, I was about to begin my third year of practicing law. I met and dated (for a very short period of time) a 24 year old guy who was still in college and actually pledging a fraternity. That 'relationship' lasted all of a month, for reasons that should be obvious.
dbtmarley Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 Hey don't worry you are 6 years past your sexual peak and she is 13 years away from hers. It should be awesome.
Trialbyfire Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 Both parties had better be at the same level of emotional maturity and also wanting similar goals in life. This rule of thumb can be applied in any relationship, regardless of who's older and what the age gap is.
Author masaki1085 Posted May 23, 2007 Author Posted May 23, 2007 Thanks folks--I just wanted a gut reaction to the question before I elaborated further. It seems like a culturally accepted thing that guy and girl are relatively close in age, or guy being older. However, I need to know other factors. The story in a nutshell: I met a young lady at a karaoke contest briefly, but did not learn much about her or get her number until a week later, partially through the involvement of her "wingperson" (because she wasn't present). I got her number from her via a phone call, and other small details (including age and occupation) from her friend. I'm 24. My first impression from her was that she was pretty close to my age--I learned that she was 27 and she's a waitress at a fancy steakhouse restaurant. I'm an aspiring teacher (currently a substitute teacher), out of college, and a restaurant server, myself. Other than this, I really don't have any other details--I'm hanging out with her soon, and I assumingly will probably learn about other aspects, like emotional maturity, goals, aspirations, etc. at that point. Thanks again!
directx Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 What are you? Kidding? 3 years? I love older women. Take them over younger any day. (within certain limits of course)
sweetbutcheeky Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 I agree that's nothing! I'm 29 and dating a guy who is 26 , it at all comes down to the chemestry and personality of the 2 people no matter the age or age difference. But younger guys do have more energy!
directx Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 I agree that's nothing! I'm 29 and dating a guy who is 26 , it at all comes down to the chemestry and personality of the 2 people no matter the age or age difference. But younger guys do have more energy! Yeah, and there is something to say about younger women: Less wrinkles, no vericose veins, more hair, less gray hair, more energy, more 'perky', and more energy. There are pros and cons to everything.
laRubiaBonita Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 I met a young lady at a karaoke contest briefly, but did not learn much about her or get her number until a week later, partially through the involvement of her "wingperson" (because she wasn't present). I got her number from her via a phone call, and other small details (including age and occupation) from her friend. are you a STALKER?
Author masaki1085 Posted May 23, 2007 Author Posted May 23, 2007 are you a STALKER? aye carumba! No, I'm not a stalker. Please refer to this story for non-"in-nutshell" story: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t119662/ This bar is one that I attend every week for this karaoke contest. I'm trying to win! (because I'm a dork and I love karaoke) The first week I met the girl. I noticed her looking at me thorughout the evening as well. It really appeared as if she was into me (again, read the story from the link above). This week, I went down, and only her friend was there. He remembers me, and comes up and says hi. I ask him what the scoop was about last week. My theories were confirmed, so I gave him my number to give to her. The other information like age and occupation kind of just came naturally in the conversation (as they asked of me, too). She calls him during the night, and he puts me on with her on the spot. She's interested in getting together, and I ask her for her number.
tattoomytoe Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 do you have a problem with the minor age difference?
dbtmarley Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 I agree that's nothing! I'm 29 and dating a guy who is 26 , it at all comes down to the chemestry and personality of the 2 people no matter the age or age difference. But younger guys do have more energy! Ahhh... The good old days when I enjoyed boundless energy and multiple orgasms! I'm a 38 year old man with a 28 year old fiance and I am proud to say I can still knock em out!
Author masaki1085 Posted May 23, 2007 Author Posted May 23, 2007 do you have a problem with the minor age difference? I'm not sure... the issue has never really come up in my life. I'm open, however. As I mentioned, at least around me, the "cultural norm" seems to be very relatively close in age, and if it is one person who is older, it seems to be the guy. Times they are achangin', though... Personally, the age factor is not going to stop me. I am possibly worried that she may think I am not mature enough for her by virtue of my age--I am not sure if she is aware of my age unless her friend told her. I guess I'll find out if it is an issue with her when I get together with her.
sweetbutcheeky Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 Yeah, and there is something to say about younger women: Less wrinkles, no varicose veins, more hair, less gray hair, more energy, more 'perky', and more energy. There are pros and cons to everything. LOL I'm only 29 so none of those are a problem! But if your both older (and with an age difference) then your both going to have those issues unless your dating a child! I really don't care personally, just worked out that way that the most mature guy I have met since my last relationship was younger. Hmm actually including my ex and he was 7 years older!
sweetbutcheeky Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 Ahhh... The good old days when I enjoyed boundless energy and multiple orgasms! I'm a 38 year old man with a 28 year old fiance and I am proud to say I can still knock em out! Yeah, and there is something to say about younger women: Less wrinkles, no vericose veins, more hair, less gray hair, more energy, more 'perky', and more energy. There are pros and cons to everything. LOL I wasn't trying to hurt the egos of older guys! I'm sure your all great in bed and have enough energy to keep the ladies happy!
D-Lish Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 3 years is nothing... When I was 25 I met a 19 year old... and we had a summer fling that blossomed into a marriage 6 years later. He was very, very mature for his age though. Now I am 37 and dating a 29 year old.... and no one can see a difference in our ages physically or in terms of maturity. It's all relative- 24 and 27 are ages that seem to be in the same life stage for the most part. I wouldn't worry. Actually, now that I think about it, I've never dated a man older than me! good luck. D
shamen Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 3 years? Nothing. Don't even worry about it at the ages of 24/27. I'm 38, my fiance is 29...
MsPiggy Posted May 25, 2007 Posted May 25, 2007 I'm a 25yr old girl with a 17yr old guy. We have great chemistry and get along incredibly well. He's very mature and everything the older guys I've met aren't. Sounds a lil crazy but i wouldn't change it for anything in the world!!!!
sb129 Posted May 25, 2007 Posted May 25, 2007 Both parties had better be at the same level of emotional maturity and also wanting similar goals in life. This rule of thumb can be applied in any relationship, regardless of who's older and what the age gap is. This is true. You already have a few things in common, and three years isn't a big gap in the grand scheme of things
frannie Posted May 26, 2007 Posted May 26, 2007 Once you get beyond a certain (mininmal) age, all that really matters in my opinion is emotional maturity, and compatibility. Certainly three or so years in late twenties is nothing.
Prise Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 Three years is inconsequential. For a very long time, I felt similar to how you feel now. Namely, that a man should be older than a woman. However, that philosophy has changed through the years. I'm not sure why, but I feel now as if age difference isn't nearly as relevant (within reason of course, +/- 10 years) as I have once perceived. For instance, all things being equal, an older person would be more well versed in the arts, literature, music, and all those presumptuous worldly refined things we're expected to indulge in as we grow older. Can't take a 20 yr old to the opening night at the opera.
justagirliegirl Posted May 27, 2007 Posted May 27, 2007 3 years isn't even an age gap. 40 something here seeing a 20 something.
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