midlandslove07 Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 Hi all Im new to the site so please be nice to me!!! well yesterday my girlfriend broke up with me and now im feeling like i do not have anyone to love me and for me to love back. I met this girl on a Dating website about 8 weeks ago and we chatted every night by phone and text and I really felt happy again but its all gone wrong now and i dont know what to do with myself. Im not sure but i kind of knew it would not work between us as she was still looking on Dating websites for men and she said she was not doing that but i knew she was and she made out that she was such a perfect person and would never lie to me which she has done. I also told her a lot about what happened to me when i was a kid and she has been telling all to people in the chat room off the website and i so feel hurt by that as i trusted her to keep it all to her self. I did all i could to love her and care for her and help her with money and all that but it just seems she only wanted me for that. I just want to be loved and cared for thats all.
Craig Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 well yesterday my girlfriend broke up with me and now im feeling like i do not have anyone to love me and for me to love back. She never loved you and you never loved her. Love doesn't happen in 8 weeks, you were just beginning to get to know her and based on results she is and was a bad person that you could not trust or trust your heart with. Next time take more time to get to know someone. I met this girl on a Dating website about 8 weeks ago and we chatted every night by phone and text and I really felt happy again but its all gone wrong now and i dont know what to do with myself. Get busy. Your feelings are real for you and the advice from the experts who have been there before you is to keep yourself busy doing things so you don't think about your pain so often. Im not sure but i kind of knew it would not work between us as she was still looking on Dating websites for men and she said she was not doing that but i knew she was and she made out that she was such a perfect person and would never lie to me ... So what you are saying is that you knew she was lying to you but chose to ignore that fact in favor of the fantasy that you had for the "relationship." This is why telling the truth is so important in relationships. You both lied to each other; she lied overtly and you lied by omission in not telling her that you knew she was lying. Next time be open and honest. I also told her a lot about what happened to me when i was a kid and she has been telling all to people in the chat room off the website and i so feel hurt by that as i trusted her to keep it all to her self.Don't worry about what people think of you. What happened to you as a kid and all is not important to the people she's telling. What they may not realize (and this is something you can tell them) is that if she'll do it to you then she'll do it to them as well. Bottom line: She can't be trusted. Conclusion: She isn't relationship material. I did all i could to love her and care for her and help her with money and all that but it just seems she only wanted me for that. *cough* You know someone for 8 weeks and you're helping her with money? If someone asks you for money or puts on a good show about needing money so early in the relationship that is a big red flag telling you to run away fast. But this is a good thing because you hopefully have learned. I just want to be loved and cared for thats all.In my humble opinion what you think is love is not what I think is love. Use this time of pain and healing to learn more about relationships and what love within a romantic relationship entails.
BlueEyedSarah Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 I also told her a lot about what happened to me when i was a kid and she has been telling all to people in the chat room off the website and i so feel hurt by that as i trusted her to keep it all to her self. How can you still want to be with a girl like this? Move on, she is not trustworthy at all!
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