Author selarom Posted July 25, 2007 Author Posted July 25, 2007 Selarom, you need to stop beating it around the bush and straight out ask her what the problem was in your relationship and whether she likes to fix it or not and if not then be done with her. This cat and mouse game you're playing is crazy. You need a strong woman who doesn't change her mind when the little thing comes around. I like your posts and you sound like me but trust me you'll be much happier with a stronger more determined woman, one who knows what she wants out of life and is ready to give her love and commit to you. One that has her stuff together. You don't want to walk on thin ice with these dates you're going to have with her and hoping that the littlest thing changes her mind about you. Hehe, its funny you say to straight out ask her whats wrong with the relationship because I did that several times prior to and during the breakup. Prior to the breakup it was "nothing" or "Ive been busy". During the breakup it was "I'm confused". I truly believe she is confused about her feelings towards me, so I think the best approach is to try a couple dates and just see how we like each other. I don't plan on playing this "game" forever, and if things get closer between us I think we will definitely have to address past issues. I also don't intend to walk on thin ice during these dates. I'll try and put out the most positive image of myself as I can, as I would on any date, but I'll be myself and won't be overly worried about "ruining" anything. But you think I should search out some other women eh? I'm keeping my eyes open.
brockdarock Posted July 27, 2007 Posted July 27, 2007 Hey selarom, I just got done reading through your first post. Out of all your reading, I think this is the most redundant question: "What is the best way to proceed that includes a chance she will come back? " My answer: You work on yourself & build a social life that you enjoy. Improve yourself and get out there and enjoy what the world has to offer! Speaking from personal experience, it's a bad idea to get too caught up on just one girl. I learned the hard way...but the lesson I learned from it was priceless. As far as the NC rule, I would forget about it. Be a man that doesn't act needy and don't turn into a wuss around her. Let her follow your lead and keep your composure. Here's my main piece of advice: build a magnetic enjoyable personality that is fun to be around. This is when you're around her AND this is for when you're around other people, too. Make it a point to give people a "feel good" sensation when they are with you. Post questions if you want to talk about this some more. Brock
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