NoOneKnows Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 And I'm looking forward to chatting with all of you in this forum.
ThumbingMyWay Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 oh boy.... are you here looking for support in your affair? or looking for support to get out of the affair?
Author NoOneKnows Posted May 22, 2007 Author Posted May 22, 2007 Hello and welcome to the fray. Well Thank You NearlyThere!!!
Author NoOneKnows Posted May 22, 2007 Author Posted May 22, 2007 oh boy.... are you here looking for support in your affair? or looking for support to get out of the affair? TMW, Why I'm not looking for support at all. Just here to see the discussions that take place & to get an idea of what everyone's opinions are.
ThumbingMyWay Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 TMW, Why I'm not looking for support at all. Just here to see the discussions that take place & to get an idea of what everyone's opinions are. forgive my manners.....Hello and welcome you will gets LOTS of opinions here.....this site goes in waves.....sometimes the BS are more prevelent...sometimes the OP are.... there will be alot of staunch opinions....but weed thru them...theres alot of great advice here. You wont get alot of support for your affair...but you will get some understanding POV...but the majority will be advice for you to stop your affair..... alot of betrayed spouses here.....and yes I am a BS myself....
NearlyThere Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 TMW, Why I'm not looking for support at all. Just here to see the discussions that take place & to get an idea of what everyone's opinions are. It probably wont take long to get the idea of every ones opinions, LS members are not backward in coming forward in that respect.
Trimmer Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 TMW, Why I'm not looking for support at all. Just here to see the discussions that take place & to get an idea of what everyone's opinions are. Good idea - it's always wise to listen around for a bit and "take the temperature of the room..." Welcome.
Author NoOneKnows Posted May 22, 2007 Author Posted May 22, 2007 forgive my manners.....Hello and welcome you will gets LOTS of opinions here.....this site goes in waves.....sometimes the BS are more prevelent...sometimes the OP are.... there will be alot of staunch opinions....but weed thru them...theres alot of great advice here. You wont get alot of support for your affair...but you will get some understanding POV...but the majority will be advice for you to stop your affair..... alot of betrayed spouses here.....and yes I am a BS myself.... Thanks for the welcome TMW. I know that there's alot of bs here & ow also. I won't be picking arguments with either side nor do I expect support from anyone as far as my relationship is concerned. Thank you for the heads up!
frannie Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 Hello and welcome. I'm an OW too, and like you not looking for support or suggestions on my own affair, just here to talk, and help others if possible.
Author NoOneKnows Posted May 23, 2007 Author Posted May 23, 2007 Hello and welcome. I'm an OW too, and like you not looking for support or suggestions on my own affair, just here to talk, and help others if possible. Hi Frannie, I think people will wonder why we are here if we're not looking for support. That's ok though. To each his own, right?!
Lizzie60 Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 I am also an OW (for a few MMs) and I will certainly not judge you or try to convince you otherwise... Take care!
Lizzie60 Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 I am also an OW (for a few MMs) and I will certainly not judge you or try to convince you otherwise... Take care!
NearlyThere Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 Hi Frannie, I think people will wonder why we are here if we're not looking for support. That's ok though. To each his own, right?! Well NOK It does say support and discussion on the title, so therefore dont worry about what you want to talk about its ok, however, dont be surprised at some of the comments you might receive, like you probably saw in my "discussion" thread about ego boosting, lol. Best thing is just let it wash over you, I usually do. lol. BTW in case you haven't gathered i'm a OW as well. NT
Author NoOneKnows Posted May 23, 2007 Author Posted May 23, 2007 Well NOK It does say support and discussion on the title, so therefore dont worry about what you want to talk about its ok, however, dont be surprised at some of the comments you might receive, like you probably saw in my "discussion" thread about ego boosting, lol. Best thing is just let it wash over you, I usually do. lol. BTW in case you haven't gathered i'm a OW as well. NT NICE TO MEET YOU NT!!!
frannie Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 Hi Frannie, I think people will wonder why we are here if we're not looking for support. That's ok though. To each his own, right?! I don't see why. People post on all areas of LS, responding to all kinds of relationship situations, many of which they've never been in. Not everyone comes here looking for 'support' or even input on their own situation. As I said, I'm here to discuss being in an affair with other people who are in affairs. And I can't see there's anything redundant in my comments, since I've had three years personal experience
Author NoOneKnows Posted May 23, 2007 Author Posted May 23, 2007 I don't see why. People post on all areas of LS, responding to all kinds of relationship situations, many of which they've never been in. Not everyone comes here looking for 'support' or even input on their own situation. As I said, I'm here to discuss being in an affair with other people who are in affairs. And I can't see there's anything redundant in my comments, since I've had three years personal experience :laugh:3 years personal experience for me also:laugh:
frannie Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 :laugh:3 years personal experience for me also:laugh: Ah nice. Have you been through ups and downs, then, or plain sailing all the way..? eta: I should add I've been through more ups and downs, or chops and changes than I care to remember. I haven't made a thread specially for my situation in ages since I've become bored with debating it, but if you check my posting history you can see the whole debacle. Also "Sami_D" had a few threads before me.
Author NoOneKnows Posted May 23, 2007 Author Posted May 23, 2007 Let's say sailing thru with a few waves mixed in. Nothing that me & my bf can't deal with & get thru though.
frannie Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 Let's say sailing thru with a few waves mixed in. Nothing that me & my bf can't deal with & get thru though. So did you go into it knowing it would be an affair, and are ok with that, or are things moving along how you wanted them to..?
Author NoOneKnows Posted May 23, 2007 Author Posted May 23, 2007 So did you go into it knowing it would be an affair, and are ok with that, or are things moving along how you wanted them to..? Yes I knew it was starting out as an affair. When I told him that I wasn't ok with that, he told his wife he was no longer in love with her & was leaving. To my suprise, he actually left her. We are living together & happy as you know what. Fooled around & fell in love!!!! (Just like the song)
frannie Posted May 23, 2007 Posted May 23, 2007 Yes I knew it was starting out as an affair. When I told him that I wasn't ok with that, he told his wife he was no longer in love with her & was leaving. To my suprise, he actually left her. We are living together & happy as you know what. Fooled around & fell in love!!!! (Just like the song) That all sounds very straighforward! What was the timescale..? Also do you consider yourself to be in an affair? And what is their timetable for divorce..?
Author NoOneKnows Posted May 23, 2007 Author Posted May 23, 2007 That all sounds very straighforward! What was the timescale..? Also do you consider yourself to be in an affair? And what is their timetable for divorce..? We met in January of 04 & in July of 04 he seperated from his wife. He is very straightforward. In everyday life too. He has been divorced since February of 06.
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