meadow Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 Hi! Ok.. so.. this is a multi-part post. I met this guy a few weeks ago and he called me the next day. We hung out, he is so sweet. Walked me to my door.. etc. We have done a few things together, gone to a party or two. It hasn't been that long but I obsess over relationships. I am really a hopeless romantic but it doesnt get me anywhere! Anyways.. I thought he really liked me, but I have a tendency of making guys feel as though im not interested. Anyways.. he went to a concert with me.. right after work and then had to go back to work early the next morning. Thing is.. I havent heard from him sense friday. Ok.. its kinda tuesday. It just seems weird! He was calling me really often! And it just seemed to stop all of the sudden. Did he loose interest? What should I do?! So here is the continuation. I am terrible with relationships. I refuse to get attached.. which I do really easily so I make myself end the relationship. Always. Its a lot easier to say it than to fix it. I make guys feel as if I am uninterested to sabatoge myself! Help! What do I do!!
DanielMadr Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 You already named your problem. I have a tendency of making guys feel as though im not interested. I refuse to get attached.I make guys feel as if I am uninterested to sabatoge myself! Help! What do I do!! Solution is: Make guys feel as though you are interested. How to: Main factor is fear. Its fear of rejection or commitment based on unhealthy self-esteem. Part of it is you dont believe from a start it will work...you have a pessimistic outlook. It is fear mainly. Do you remmber the first time you had to conquer fear? Maybe jumping to a water or driving a car? No pain no gain. Dont take rejections personally, because most of the time its just you two dont click together. Its just it. People who are obssesed they have to be everybodys favourite or those who are worried what other people will think of their faults have a harsh life. Although people who are too hard on themselves have insecurity problems. Just dont take yourself and your life too seriously. Take care about whats important...not to end up sliced to pieces in some mass mureder fridge....and be more careless about the rest. To build up Confidence is a long path but most important is to walk the path and not hiding in a bush. Any easy approach like reading books or listening to sef help tapes or getting ego-boost in clubs is short-lived feeling of Confidence. Just ask him How is he doing
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