Guest Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 i've been with my girlfriend for about 8 months, and our sex life has slowly started to dissipate. i've put up with it, yet now it's getting to the point where it makes me feel totally insecure because we'll go out to parties and she'll get drunk and flirt and dance with other guys, and i feel like i don't have anyhting that separates me from them. when i brought that up she said i'm just acting possessive, like i should own her, yet am i genuinely overstating the importance of sex here? i'm not a sex freak or anyhting, it's just that when it is missing, the issue's going to seem a lot bigger than it is. the other thing is i'm 21 and she's 26, which might account for the difference in drives, plus she is unable to orgasm. i asked her if i still turn her on, and she said i do in other ways, and that it doesn't have to always be about sex - that cuddling is enough, etc. i don't know what to do, this is my first real relationship so i can't gauge what's normal. i would have thought at 21 it's pretty reasonable to expect to have a consistent sex life. i love her, yet a huge part of what we have is how deeply attracted to her i am, and it's so frustrating to sit around like a glorified best friend or something unable to 'have' her. we don't even make out really. she says i'm crazy and acting like it's still the first 2 weeks of the relationship when things are hyper-physical. do i just have unrealistic expectations here? is it shallow to leave someone over no sex? it's just that i'm young and curious, and we've both said we could happily maintain a friendship if we broke up. i don't see how us being good friends would really be a whole lot different at this point to what we have now. i just dont want to enter a new relationship and find out that it's me who's totally unrealistic and end up regretting leaving this girl.
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